"Illness is a cry to discover a truth about yourself in the midst of an illusion. The illusion is a concept or mythology about your body or relationship or life which has developed in an attempt to protect you from feeling separate and worthless"- Donny Epstein
An autoimmune disease is often described as a condition in which your immune system mistakenly attacks your body. But, is our body really mistaken in its attack?
The thoughts we have play a role in the way our body responds. Our thoughts initiate chemicals to be released into the body which in turn leads to a cascade of reactions and actions within. For example, when we have thoughts and feelings of stress, our body releases cortisol, adrenaline, and other chemicals which in turn tells our body to run away, fight or freeze.
If we have thoughts of love or joy, our body will release dopamine and our body’s cells will be bathed in this feel good drug.
Now, what thoughts could possibly contribute to having our bodies fight against themselves? What if you told yourself that you were a bad person? What if you told yourself that you were sick? What if you were constantly telling yourself that you were not enough? Not worthy, not able to heal and were always hard on yourself?
What if, the thoughts you had that “attack” your self were actually leading to your body to attack itself?
How can you change this? Change your thoughts and you can change your body.
Now, it is also important to remember that some thoughts and/or beliefs are subconscious and under the surface. This means that we are not aware of them but they run in the background. They can also contribute to our illnesses. Also, auntoimmune diseases are very complex in nature and multiple factors contribute to them. However, this is one factor that you can control and change.
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How do you get long term satisfaction in life?
We know that material things usually don’t lead to long term happiness. We want a new clothes, phones, cars, etc. and when we get them, we’re happy for a moment but then, we start looking for the next thing we want. We also never stop wanting something new.
This also happens in our life as well. We may say, I’ll be happy when I finish school, only to find out that when you finish school, you’d be happy if you found a job. You’ve probably said, I’ll be happy when I’m a relationship...only to say, I’ll be happy once I’m out of this relationship. How about, I’ll be happy when I get married and have kids...only to say, I’ll be happy once my kids are out of the house. This is also, not the route to long term satisfaction...so what is?
The only thing that satisfies long term is to make a difference for others.
There are many ways to make a difference that will last a lifetime. It’s in the way you live, the way you love, the way you care. You need to make it a part of your life. Lifestyle includes the way you love, care and give.
Recognize what you have that’s abundance and give from your abundance. Do you have an abundance of time? Volunteer for an organization that you care about. An abundance of money? Use it to make a difference. An abundance of knowledge? Teach with it.
The only thing that satisfies long term is to make a difference for people. Go out and be the change that you want to see in the world.
We all have an expiry date. While we may not know when our day will come, there are certain factors that can speed up the date for our body. Some aspects are in our control and others are not. We will look at 5 things that we are in control of.
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Alice: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
Cheshire cat: “That depends a good deal on where you want to go to,”
Alice: “I don’t much care where-”
Cheshire cat: “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go”
“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there” - Lewis Carroll
Similar to not knowing where you want to go, if you don’t know who you are, others will dictate it for you.
Some people have strong personalities and are sure of themselves. This good news with this is that they tend to set their own rules and not let others tell them what to do. They tend to get their way in most instances.
Others, are more flexible in their personalities. The good news is that they are more agreeable. The downfall is that they will go along with what everyone else wants. They are also people pleasers and may even give up what they want in order to please someone else, keep the peace or out of obligation or guilt.
When you go along with everyone else at the expense of who you are, you give up your identity. You allow others to steal your identity and your power.
Think of which situations where you allow this to happen. Do you give up power in your relationships? Finances; by ignoring them or allowing someone else to manage them? How about your health? Do you let someone else decide your health decision for you or do you gather information first and them make an informed decision?
When you give up who you are over long periods of time, you can start to get resentful towards others or angry.
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Often times we set goals or resolutions at the beginning of the year. Most times, we forget about them after a few months. Here is a way that allows you to focus on your goals for the year.
Set a monthly theme for you goal. That way, you only focus on a single goal or theme for 1 month at a time. 1 month is easier to maintain than 1 year. Also, you can keep something up for 30 days but it’s much harder to do it for 365 days.
My theme for the next 5 months is to focus on connection. I’ve further broken my theme down into 5 areas to focus on for each of the next 5 months.
Month 1- connection with myself- since the birth of my child, I’ve neglected certain areas of my life. In this month, I look to add back into my life regular exercise, journaling and meditation. I will also give myself grace by not mandating that I do something religiously or like I did before, recognising that I have new priorities in my life that require my time. Instead of working out 5-6 times a week like before, I will try for once every 2 weeks. During this month, my question that I ask myself will be: is this task (i.e. watching tv, going on social media, etc) bringing me closer to my goal this month?
Month 2- connection with my significant other- it is very important for me to keep our relationship strong. It’s also been harder to find time for ourselves taking care of a baby. This is why I want to make special efforts in making my significant other a priority. We’ll try for date nights or to cook together and have quality family time. My question this month will be: is what I am currently doing, going to bring me more connection with my significant other or my family?
Month 3- connection with my child- it is important to me to foster a great connection with my baby. When we’re together or as a family, I want to focus on being present when we play or learn. I will enjoy our moments together and get to know this amazing little human. My question will be: am I being fully present to connect with my child?
Month 4- connection with family and friends- these relationships are very important to me and are part of my village. I want to foster these connections.
Month 5- connection with my business- I love what I do and I am very fortunate to have amazing patients. I love connecting with them and watching their lives change for the better.
What are other areas that you would like to focus on? Finances, health, etc? Pick the areas you want to focus on and get started!!
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I’ve only recently become a parent but have learned so much already in the short period of time.
Here are 5 lessons that I’ve learned and am still learning.
Thank you baby Lincoln for teaching me so much in your short time here. Looking forward to even more lessons to come!
What are some of the important lessons that your children have taught you? Comment below.
It has been 1 month since I became a parent. It’s also been 1 month since I’ve been on a continuous roller coaster ride. I thought I had a concept of what it would be like to be a parent and that our lives would change but I did not have the knowing of it in my nervous system.
The first week, I learned what extraordinary things my body was capable of...labour, birth, producing milk for baby. Things it innately knew how to do and had programmed within it but it had never done before.
Emotionally, my heart expanded even bigger to include another human. It was a sleepless week of joy, wonder and learning.
At week 2, my husband went back to work and I had to learn (the hard way) what I had attached my identity to. What I did not know before baby Lincoln was how much freedom/ independence I experienced until I didn’t have it anymore.
When I wanted to leave the house before, it took me 5 minutes. If wanted to go to the store, I would go. If I wanted to visit a friend, see a movie, go out for dinner, I could...and now, going out required another level of planning.
Our first outing was supposed to be to the store to get Halloween candy for trick or treater’s...by the time I changed him, fed him, changed him again, got ready myself...we made it as far as the car seat when I gave up on going out.
The next day, we fared a little better. We made it to our appointment...late. I am never late to my appointments. Ever. I also made the mistake of not feeding Lincoln before we got back in the car so he cried all the way home. I was driving and couldn’t feed him so I cried with him while I drove. Welcome to parenthood.
As the weeks passed, we are learning more about each other and how to travel as a unit. Things have been getting better, as they often do, with practice.
Being a parent is hard. It’s also amazing and lonely (3am feedings). It can make you feel like a failure, or a superhero. You can go crazy, have the patience of a saint or be impatient. It can bring out the best version of you and the worst. It is a dichotomy and so is life. Hang on to the roller coaster and enjoy the ride!
To all the parents out there, you are not alone and you are superheros!
To my earth angels aka family, friends, strangers who have stopped in to help, thank you from the bottom of our hearts! It really does take a village to raise a child...and to help out their mother.
Discipline is often seen as boring. We are doing the same habits over and over again. The secret is that discipline can actually lead to freedom.
For example, when we tend to have too much time on our hands (no discipline), we waste it because we get bored and need to think about what to do with our time.
Decision fatigue is when you get tired from making too many decision at a time. For instance, what to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner. What to wear for work, who to call, which route you take to drive to wherever you are going, etc. By the end of your day, you have no more energy because you’ve been making too many decisions.
A way to counteract this is to decrease the number of decisions you make in a day and allow your brain to focus on more important things. Instill discipline into your day so you think about smaller things, less. CEO’s like Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook, wear the same clothing (jeans and a black t-shirt) every day to work so he doesn’t have to think about what to wear. If you cultivate discipline in planning your meals ahead of time, scheduling your gym routine, taking care of your health, getting your clothes ready, taking the same route to work, etc. Your brain could save energy for things that are more important to you. This is freedom of mind!
If you are looking for freedom from sickness and poor health. What discipline would be required? Would you pre-determine your foods, workouts, doctor’s appointments, take preventative health measures?
To gain financial freedom, would you have the discipline to put aside money, to invest, to not buy the extra starbucks coffee?
Discipline sets you free!!
How do you instill discipline into your life? Leave a comment below.
We are all investors. We choose where, what, with whom, to invest our TIME.
Time is our most precious commodity. Each one of us has the same amount of time each day to choose what we want to invest in.
Time is the big equalizer because we all have the same amount in a day. No one is more special each day that they can have more of it than another.
Your vocation, or work, is a place where you invest lots of your hours. Here are some questions to determine if you’re getting a good return on your investment.
These questions can also be asked of other things that require a large investment of your time. I.e. relationships, projects, new business, etc.
Whatever you are doing, make sure that you are getting a good return on investment for your most valuable asset.
“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!” ― Hunter S. Thompson
Nearing the end of my pregnancy I noticed a shift in perspective. Whereas I was once avoiding or not wanting to feel the physical pain of it, I am now embracing it. This is because my perspective has shifted in regards to pain.
Now, I’m embracing pain. This is because I know it will get me closer to my goal (meeting my baby). It goes without saying that birth can be a somewhat painful process for most people. So, as one gets closer to the process, a certain amount of surrender to pain needs to occur.
With each cramp, each painful movement, each strain, etc. it brings me closer to my goal. Shifting from fear to change means accepting what’s to come and welcoming growth.
Stage 5 in SRI (book: 12 stages of healing) is about merging beyond the illusion. The illusion is a wall or something created by your mind. You need to go through the illusion to embrace what’s on the other side. The illusion that my mind created was that pain is separate from growth whereas, the reality is that pain is a part of it. This isn’t just in childbirth. It occurs throughout life.
Is there pain when starting a new exercise regimen after not working out for a while? Is there pain in making a commitment to improve your diet when you need to give up a lot of what you’ve been eating before? Is there pain when ending a relationship or job for the opportunities of a new one?
Pain is not separate from life. It is a part of it. When we embrace it, learn through it and grow, we shift from fear to change.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.