Are you a person doing or a person being?
“We stay busy so that the truth about our lives doesn’t catch up to us.” - Brene Brown
When you have more time on your hands, you can observe more of who you are. With everyone being told to stay at home, you get a chance to see who you are without the distractions of the normal day to day life.
Personally, I’ve noticed that I am always trying to find something to do. Running my own business, I can always find more work to do or more things to learn.
When I’m not working on my business, I have the kids to distract me, along with household chores, etc.
When I’m bored, I turn on the TV, listen to a podcast, or read. I try to fill my day with things to do. I have checklists for the day and I write so many things down that I can’t possibly do them all.
Recently, I wondered why I do things all the time. I came to understand that I VALUE doing. Somewhere along the way in life, I have equated doing things with being valuable. I am of value to others if I do things and if I’m not doing something, I have lost “worth” in my eyes.
Now that I know this belief is FALSE. I can practice being more. The irony is that worth and value come from being. Being a nice person, being grounded and connected, being with one’s self, being with spirit, being the person you were meant to be.
I don’t simply want to be a human doing….. I want to be a human be-ing.
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This morning my son accidently hurt me. He was walking backwards while I was lying on the floor playing with his sister. He didn’t see me and ended up stepping on my head. I exclaimed “Ouch!” and sat up to see if I was hurt. I then turned to my son and asked for an apology. Instead of hearing “Sorry Mama”, I heard ‘No!”. I proceeded to tell him that I was not mad at him, that he was not in trouble and he did accidentally step on someone and when we do that, we say sorry. He still refused.
To me, it was a simple “sorry” and that was all. Intead, he cried and ran away and made things harder than they should’ve been.
How many times have we made life more difficult than it should be? If a simple “I’m sorry” was all you had to say to make everything better, why do we choose instead to run away? Why is it so difficult for us to admit when we are wrong?
It was also interesting to watch my reaction. My first instinct was to punish him in some way (turn off Paw Patrol) for not wanting to apologize. I learned that my reaction when my feelings are hurt is to punish and withdraw love.
I observed my first reaction to hold back on love and I chose to react differently. He still needs to apologize or acknowledge that it is not ok to step on people’s head but he will not be getting any less hugs or less love from me as punishment.
The lesson is to teach that there are three actions and consequences to certain actions. This does not have to be taking away love which is one of the hardest things for a child.
Interestingly, when I told my husband about the situation, my husband said...he’s just like you!....urgh, it appears that I have more work to do.
How do you react when you are hurt? Where did this programming come from?
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Times are tough right now. We are experiencing something that we never have before and on a large scale. Whatever you are feeling, it is OK to feel the way that you feel.
It is OK if you are having a tough day, week or month.
Some people are at home trying to work, look after the children and homeschool them at the same time. You can’t expect to do all of these things. Even if you are able to (good for you), you are probably feeling pulled in many directions. It is OK to feel burnt out, overworked, stressed out or sad.
Some people have lost their support network. Your family is not around to help. You can’t see your friends in person and some people are missing social interaction. Acknowledge what you were feeling and what you are missing.
Others are missing freedom. Freedom to go outside without being scared. Freedom to see other people. Acknowledge how you are feeling.
This is a time of fear and worry for a lot of people. Acknowledge what you feel and really feel the emotions that are coming up in your body.
Know that this is all temporary and that the sun will come out again.
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I was on a virtual call with a patient and we were talking about the different acronyms for fear. We then realized that as we dissected out the various meanings of fear, we could put them in different stages according to the actions, beliefs, emotions and states of consciousness.
Where do you fit in?
In this state, you may worry about many things and you are scared. You run away….from relationships, when things get uncomfortable, from finances, from your taxes, from your own power. Your nervous system is in a high state of alert and is ready to leave anything that you deem to possibly be dangerous or cause you harm, even if it’s only in your mind.
In this state, you start to question if there really is something to fear. Or perhaps you start to question your thinking to see if it was logical or if you were reacting with your emotions. A great question to ask yourself here is, “what else can this mean”? For example, a date cancels on you. Your mind goes to “he doesn’t like me, or I’m not lovable”. If you asked, what else could be going on here, you may find out that he’s not feeling well, his dog died, he got called into work, etc.
Here, you start to regain some more of your personal power. You take what comes at you and stay...even though you want to run away. You face the fear of public speaking. Your voice quivers, you think you might throw up, you wished that no one had showed up but you dig your heels in and stay.
In this state, there is an inner knowing that you can handle whatever comes your way. There is hardly any fear and what fear there is, you know the energy will be used to help you take the actions that you need to take. On the other side of the fear, you know that you will develop skills that will make you stronger. There is a purpose to what you are going through. You know that on the other side of the fear, is a gift.
Be aware of where you are, acknowledge it and accept it.
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When a challenge arises in life, your best offence and defence is to be adaptable. The less tension you have in your body, the more flexible you are. With increased flexibility in your muscles, ligaments and tendons, the less prone you are to injury.
Below is a blog from my friend and colleague Dr. Thorin Gault about adaptability.
ADAPTABILITY is the ability to respond to changing conditions and circumstances. Great ADAPTABILITY allows us to actually grow and get better as a result of adversity. A lack of ADAPTABILITY means that when conditions change, we get hurt.
CRISIS has an amazing ability to show us where we may possess a LACK of ADAPTABILITY.
People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their health are TERRIFIED right now (just spend a little time on social media) and are definitely suffering more than people who have that handled.
People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their finances are in TROUBLE and probably wish they had given themselves more options.
People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their mental health are in real danger right now and that danger will only increase the longer the lock down continues.
People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their relationships....well you can just IMAGINE.
None of this is about blame - it is what it is and we all have our histories and circumstances.
As always, there is a MASSIVE OPPORTUNITY in all of this. There is an OPPORTUNITY to take RESPONSE- ABILITY in how we move forward, both now and when the 'crisis' is over.
Where in your life are you lacking the ability to ADAPT? Where in your life would MORE adaptability be a good thing?
Once you have the answers to these questions, what can you do, starting today to start building ADAPTABILITY into those areas?
How can you commit to becoming more ADAPTABLE once the dust settles on this madness? In your physical health, mental health, finances, relationships.....?
ADAPTABILITY protects us.
ADAPTABILITY is like an armour.
ADAPTABILITY is what allows us to learn and get better.
Perhaps the greatest gift the care that Neuro-Optimization delivers is ADAPTABILITY. As the health of the spine and nervous system (they are inseparable) increases, we become more adaptable humans.
We are here for you and will do what we can (being adaptable) for everyone until we get back to life.
There is SO MUCH to learn from all of this. Let's grow together.
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There are probably a lot of things that we are fearful of. One of my fears is snakes. I don’t even know why I’m afraid of them but I am. However, I don’t want my son to be. So, I need to be courageous for him so that he doesn’t grow up to be fearful of them.
One of the ways to turn your fear into courage is to do it for someone else. Have there been times where you have been fearful to speak up about something for yourself? Perhaps it was for a raise or to a bully. How about if you had to speak up to protect someone else? I’m sure you could find the courage to do that.
If you can’t do it for you, find someone else that you can be courageous for. Your family, friends, animals who may not be able to speak for themselves.
Another way to get through your fears is to break them down into smaller challenges. If your goal was to climb a high mountain then your task would seem daunting if you were at the bottom. If however, you just asked if you could take the next step or two, your challenge would then become easier. Over time, you will climb your mountain.
One thing I like to do is to give myself challenges. For instance, if I wanted to try a new way of eating. I might commit to it for 30 days and give myself and 30 healthy eating challenge. 30 days is something that I can track and it’s a short enough time vs saying that I had to eat a certain way forever.
If finances scare you, why not try a 30 day challenge where you track your spending.
Commit to a 30 day challenge for something, and write below what you are going to do.
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Healing can take on various forms. It can be as simple as healing from a papercut to living your best life with a complex and chronic illness such as Lyme disease.
Either way, there are 5 commitments that you can make to your health and healing that can speed up the process of getting to your goals.
Let’s first start by the definition of health. The World Health Organization says: “Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” This means that the goal of health should not only be getting rid of pain or physical symptoms but should include how you feel emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
It also means that sometimes, you may have to live with a disease for your life or for long periods of time. Does this mean that you can’t be well? No, it does not.
Here are 5 Healing Commitments that can lead to better health:
If you have any other healing commitment suggestions, write them below!
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Sometimes we may want to know what will happen in the future. While it may be helpful for us, we would then ruin life’s surprises….and boy, does life know how to surprise us!
Here is one of life’s funnier surprises.
I was cutting up fruit for my kids and placed my youngest on the floor. I could see her and she was playing quietly so I thought nothing of it and continued to cut up fruit. After a few minutes, she was still playing, I looked up and her back was to me but she was still sitting there.
A minute later, my husband sees her and calls out my name...in that way that you know something is wrong.
I ran over to my daughter and laughed. She was covered from head to toe in white, pasty, diaper rash cream! As I was about to leave for work so my husband put her into the shower to try to get it off but it wouldn’t come off.
As I went to find my 2 year old to say goodbye, I saw that he had rolled a paper towel roll down the hall like a bowling alley. I laughed and laughed, all the way to work.
What surprises has life given you? Tell us below.
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Even in stressful and uncertain times, there is opportunity. Do you see the opportunity?
Around the world right now, people are being told to stay home, practice social distancing, businesses and schools are closing and our normal way of life is interrupted.
While there is anger, worry, sadness and fear, there is also hope.
Normally, I’d be writing my blog on my break at work. Today, I am writing from my living room while the kids are watching a movie. They are young so I’ve already been interrupted 20,000 times but I’ve also had more cuddles that I would if I were not here with them.
With activities, school and work being disrupted, families are spending more time together as a unit.
While seniors and those that are immunocompromised are told to self isolate for their safety, we are also making a conscious effort to check in on them to see if they need anything and to connect with them in some way.
Small businesses, including mine are being forced to close without notice. There is an opportunity here as well. While the majority of my practice requires placing my hands on someone, there is another portion that does not. This part includes teaching a person body connection and breathing exercises. It teaches someone how they can communicate better with their own body. How their body stores and releases stress. This aspect of my business will be shifting online.
My workshops that I have always wanted to try to conduct online will now occur online for the first time. Difficult times force us to change! If your body is primed for change then this is an exciting time for you. If it is not, fear will cause tension in you and stay there.
With the break aka lockdown in Wuhan, some of the smog in the city has started to clear. People were noticing the sounds of nature returning. Mother nature is getting a chance to heal. This is an opportunity.
It is an uncertain time and there is also opportunity if you can take action on it.
We are all in this together. We will get through it!
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As you probably know, our office is currently closed for in-office treatments. This is in an effort to help “flatten the curve” and to keep everyone safe. This is especially important in our office as we see a lot of immunocompromised patients.
Instead, to continue to serve you, I am now offering Neuro-Optimization treatments virtually. As I cannot physically touch you, some aspects of the treatment will obviously be different. However, we can still continue the body connection exercises, breathing exercises and mindfulness exercises to help you relieve stress and tension.
Some of the exercises come from the “12 Stages of Healing” by Dr. Donald Epstein. The term Stages of Healing refers to a state of consciousness. There are 12 states and once you are aware of them, you can observe where you are on your healing journey.
As part of the human experience, we have choices. Even when it seems like we have no choice i.e. we’re told to self isolate for 14 days, we can still choose our reaction to it. One possible reaction is to fully accept where we are, to experience it fully and make the best of it, even if it’s uncomfortable or painful. Another option is avoid it or run away from it completely.
As a healthcare practitioner, I see both. Some people accept their pain, illness, diagnosis, etc and are committed to taking action steps to change what they can. I’ve also seen people not wanting to know what is going on in their body or even deny it.
The 12 stages of healing allows us to fully accept where we are at and to experience it, including all the emotions present. Instead of trying to avoid what we don’t like or attempt to be somewhere else, the principle is to simply be where you are.
In the world, life is calling us to literally be where we are. If we can’t go outside, we will go inside. If we can’t go without, we will go within.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.