In this blog, I’m going to use "problem" to mean a situation regarded as being unwelcome, negative or harmful and needing to do dealt with or overcome.
We are always going to have some sort of problem in our lives. This is because humans are dynamic and continuously learning, moving, evolving, interacting with others and growing. So, if we accept that problems are going to be a part of our life, we want to have, better quality problems.
Let’s take the transition between school and work as an example. When you’re in school, your problems include studying for exams, getting assignments done, passing your courses and interacting with others. As your studies come to an end, your focus shifts to getting a job. Your problems are resume writing, going on interviews, managing your finances. When you get your job, your problems turn into getting a raise, keeping your job, etc.
Through the different stages, there are what we perceive as problems. When we look back at the events, they seem less like a problem compared to what is currently going on. Remember how stressed you were writing an exam? When you thought that it was the end of the world? Now compare that to trying to keep your job when your company is downsizing.
We will never get rid of all our problems, what we want is to exchange them for better problems. Both having too much money and not enough money are problems? Which would you rather? In business, having not enough customers lead to one set of problems. I’d rather exchange that for, having too many customers.
Whenever you think you have a problem, instead of wishing your problems away, look to find a better quality problem.
Comment below on what your current problem is and what could be a better quality one for you.
When you see other people’s successes, what is your reaction? Are you jealous of what others have or are you happy for them? Your response is a good measure as to how you are living your life.
Are you excited and grateful for who and what you have in your life? Or do you feel like you’re missing something and you can’t have it?
Our reactions give us a lot of information about ourselves.
When you are happy in your own life, you will be happy for others in theirs as well. That’s not to say that you can’t strive to have more, be more or do more. It also doesn’t mean that you feel bad about goals that you have. It only means you celebrate other people's success because you know that if they can achieve a goal of theirs, you can also.
Next time you scroll down your Facebook newsfeed, check-in with yourself on how you react to hearing good news from others.
Remember also that the grass is not always greener on the other side. It is greenest where you water it. Just because someone has something that you are striving for, it does not mean that they are happy.
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A few weeks ago I had made it a goal to set better work boundaries. This came up because I had been working more and I wanted to make sure I had enough energy to give to my patients in my practice.
This intention got tested over the weekend.
A personal friend of mine had a question about an aspect of her care and got hold of me on a Sunday while I was running errands.
At that moment, I could have chosen to answer the phone or write her back at a different time. I was about to stop what I was doing (I was at Costco at a busy time) to answer her when I remembered my commitment to setting boundaries.
It wasn’t easy for me but I chose to stand my ground. I responded that she would have to discuss her care with me at the office during office hours. If she had something to say in regards to our friendship, she was at liberty to contact me at any time.
In the past, I would have either written back at that moment and then been resentful towards this person for disrupting my family time or ignored the message and continue to be annoyed.
Once I chose to stand up, I felt instantly relieved. Her response was that of understanding.
Choose discomfort over resentment. The discomfort is usually only short term while resentment can build up over time.
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Back in October, I attended a business strategy seminar to help me to start planning my next year. As most of you know, I’m often at continuing education seminars to improve my neuro chiropractic skills and take various courses for personal development and growth. The intent of this seminar was to work on my business and instead, we worked on life.
Here are 5 lessons I learned that apply to business, life and health.
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When I was growing up, I was taught the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. In other words, treat others as you would like them to treat you. I have since found this statement to be less accurate that originally taught.
People don’t want you to treat them like you want to be treated, they want you to treat them how they want to be treated.
Let’s say for example that I have an outgoing and loud personality. If I were in a classroom setting, I may want to be called upon in class and to do speeches and participate. Imagine if I treated everyone in class like that? What would happen to the shy, introverted people? They would be terrified and never come back to class.
Instead, treat others as they expect to be treated, to the best of your ability. This holds true especially in the service industry. When you go to a restaurant, you have certain expectations. You expect to be seated, someone to bring you drinks, order and serve you. If your expectations we not met, you would probably not return to the establishment.
What happens when you have certain expectations about your kids, spouse, friend etc and they are not met? An upset will probably occur.
Some will say that you should not have any expectations. The challenge is, we all do. Until we have the chance to explore our limiting beliefs and change our expectations, remember to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and see how they might want to be treated.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.