Before practicing here at the Hampton Wellness Centre, I was at another location. I had put in a lot of energy and effort to build a practice there and what seemed like overnight, it was gone. I was crushed. How could something that I worked so long and hard for, be gone in a flash?
At the time, I felt lost, embarrassed and I didn’t know what to do. I admittedly sulked at home for a bit and wanted to hide under a pillow for a while. Luckily, I have great support from family, friends, colleagues and mentors who encouraged me and helped me to pick myself back up.
Within 1 month, I was back up and running and I have not looked back since. What seemed like a setback at a time was really an opportunity. Yes, I had to rebuild my practice. Yes, it was still a challenge. However, there were lots of learning experiences that I took from it that will serve me in the long run.
Some of those are:
Want to find out the skills I used? Stayed tuned next week for the second part of Turning Setbacks into Comebacks.
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A few weeks back, I wrote a blog about getting rid of things and the meaning we have attached to what we are trying to get rid of.
This past weekend, I was inspired to clean out old baby clothes. What I learned was that I had more emotional attachment to my baby’s clothes than I had expected.
As I started to go through the boxes, I would see the outfits and memories would come back from when he was wearing those clothes. From his first outfit coming home to his first swim to what he wore the day he turned 1. As I started to go through the boxes, it got harder and harder to give things away!
I even thought about the article that I wrote about how hard it was to give things away! So, I had to come up with a plan that worked for me because the clothes had to go.
For the clothes that were easy to purge, I donated them to a neighbourhood family. For those that were more difficult, I gave them to a good friend. For me, having them go to a child that I can see make new memories, allows me to let go of them more easily.
How do you give away things that you have attachments to? Share your tips in the comments below.
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Some people create goals or resolutions and then forget about them. How can they come true if they aren’t in your consciousness?
Remember that success and failure are both choices. In fact, they are made up of many choices along our way. We don’t become overweight because of one bad food choice. We become overweight by many poor choices, repeated over again.
You need to choose to take action on your goals. Over and over again until you achieve your desired results.
Here are some ways to keep your goals at the top of your mind
The more you put your goals in the forefront of your mind, the easier it will be to manifest them. What are some things you do?
Due to our different life experiences, we have all come to our own unique ways in which we see the world. In our personal relationships, wouldn’t it be important to know how you and your partner experience love?
My partner and I took this test (https://www.5lovelanguages.com/) which gave us an idea on what we value and what acts of kindness mean love to us.
For him, words of affirmation were meaningful to him, whereas for myself, acts of service.
With words of affirmation:
Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
With acts of service:
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an "Acts of Service" person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.
You can read more of the other communication styles through the link posted above.
What I learned was to tell my partner more often in words, how important he is to me. Once I learned to verbalize my appreciation more, our communication improved. I learned that I was doing acts of service for him and was getting frustrated that they were not appreciated as much as I would have if they were done for me. This caused me to be frustrated.
This was a great lesson on how the same experience can mean something different to someone else. Take the love languages quiz. What do you value?
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.