You scroll down your Facebook feed and you see people getting married, going on vacation, having kids, buying new houses, cars, etc and think...it must be nice...in a not so nice way. Then you wonder, why is everyone else’s life so much more exciting than mine? I wish I had what everyone else has…..
We’ve all heard the expression that the grass isn’t greener on the other side and it’s true! The grass is GREENEST where you water it. Wherever you spend time, put energy and effort, that you will cultivate.
Look at your own life, where have you placed your time and energy? Do you place it on your health? If so, you may eat well, exercise, get regular neuro-optimization care, etc. While if your focus is on finances. You may save 10% of your income, invest, etc. Observe that life you have right now. Are there any areas that require more focus?
Comparing to other people does not help you. Firstly, it is not a fair comparison. You are comparing someone else’s outside world and highlight reel with your inside world. Have you known people who’ve been married, had money, had a big house and were not happy? Of course, we all have. Who’s to say that if you achieve all the things you want, you would be happy? Happiness is an inside job. It comes from within. It is a choice. You can choose to be happy in whatever circumstances you find yourself in.
Comparing also robs you of what makes you unique and special. When you want to be like someone else, you lose you.
Instead of comparing, try celebrating. Celebrate the achievements of others. Have you ever had something you were excited to share with others only to find out that people were jealous and talking badly of you behind your back? How did that make you feel? Celebrate the good things in life. When you start to notice all the good, you will then attract more of it in your life. You will begin to see how rich you are.
For more information about these topics and other personal growth ones, come to our monthly advanced workshops.
Is there an area in your life where you are feeling stuck? It could be in your health, finances, relationships, career, etc.
Here is an exercise you can do to help you move beyond your stuckness.
1.First, picture an area in your life where you are feeling stuck. See it clearly. Feel it, smell it, taste it, hear it and sense it.
2. When thinking of being stuck, what emotions does it bring up within you? Where are the areas of pain or tension coming up within you when you are thinking of your situation? Take note of your body.
3. Now focus on the area of pain or tension that came up. If you have multiple areas, choose the one that you are most aware of. You can come back to this exercise later to talk to the other areas of your body.
4. Think back to a time in your life where you first felt this same emotion. Spend some time here. Keep going back. Who was involved? Were you alone, with your parents, etc?
5. What decision did you make at this point in your life? Was there a decision not to feel this way again?
6. How has this decision affected your life?
Once you find out when and where you’ve been stuck, you can move on. For more exercises like this, come to our monthly advanced workshops.
If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know when you get there? In the beginning of care, people often ask how I know when they are done care. I have certain objectives that I want to achieve for your body and I also want to know what you expect from care. During our re-evaluation sessions, this is when we decide if we’ve both reached our objectives.
In our initial examination together, I am searching for areas of neuro abnormality, whether they be physical, emotional or mental tension patterns. When we go through the various tests, we are checking to see with your body is within the normal range or outside it. Similar to when you get your blood pressure or when you have your eyes checked. Outside of “normal” may indicate that you need glasses. Outside of normal on our tests indicates neuro abnormality. Our objectives are to bring your body back within the normal range.
An objective is what your goal is, your outcome. What would you like to create and what does that look like?
For some of you, your objectives are to get out of pain (physically, emotionally or mentally) while for others, it may be to become more aware of who they are and create change in their life. My objectives when working together are to find neuro abnormalities in your body that are creating tension patterns and to help you resolve them. To measure neuro abnormality in the spine, we test objective indicators during your examination. At our progress exam, we redo the objective indicators to see how far your body has come.
A strategy is how you get to your outcome. What tools do you use to get your to our outcomes.
My strategies for getting to our outcomes include light touch chiropractic care, breathing exercises, visualization, advanced workshops, supplements, etc.
What are you objectives for life? What do you want to create and what are your strategies for achieving what you want. Remember, the longest journey begins with a single step.
I was recently asked by a long time patient, how she knows if she’s in the flow. I told her that being in the flow is achieved differently by each individual, however, I can tell her when I am in the flow which may help her find out when she is.
What is flow? Other words include being “in the zone” or in the present moment. Here’s a Ted talk on Flow, the secret to happiness.
Usually, when I am not in the flow, I am very conscious of the time. In general, I like to be early for engagements and run on time with my patients. When I am bored, I am constantly looking at the clock. However, when I am in the flow, my relationship with time changes and it matters less to me.
This can happen when I’m seeing patients, reading a book, meditating, hanging out with friends or exercising. When the concept of time disappears, I know that I am in the moment. When I’m not staring at the clock or worried about where I need to be, I am present.
Because I am aware of my time obsession, I also schedule things and use timers so I can go into my flow state and yet satisfy the back of my mind that I will not be late. For instance, I set a timer for 30 mins to meditate and then I won’t need to worry about what time it is. I can also not use it as an excuse to meditate for less time.
When I do activities that I know will require a lot of focus, such as rock climbing or working on my handstands (New Year’s Intention), then flow comes easier.
As you become more aware of yourself, you will learn how you are when you are in flow. How you breathe, what your energy does, and how your body moves. Know yourself and you can create flow anytime you like.
For more information about how flow works for you, come to one of our advanced workshops.
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.