Often times we set goals or resolutions at the beginning of the year. Most times, we forget about them after a few months. Here is a way that allows you to focus on your goals for the year.
Set a monthly theme for you goal. That way, you only focus on a single goal or theme for 1 month at a time. 1 month is easier to maintain than 1 year. Also, you can keep something up for 30 days but it’s much harder to do it for 365 days.
My theme for the next 5 months is to focus on connection. I’ve further broken my theme down into 5 areas to focus on for each of the next 5 months.
Month 1- connection with myself- since the birth of my child, I’ve neglected certain areas of my life. In this month, I look to add back into my life regular exercise, journaling and meditation. I will also give myself grace by not mandating that I do something religiously or like I did before, recognising that I have new priorities in my life that require my time. Instead of working out 5-6 times a week like before, I will try for once every 2 weeks. During this month, my question that I ask myself will be: is this task (i.e. watching tv, going on social media, etc) bringing me closer to my goal this month?
Month 2- connection with my significant other- it is very important for me to keep our relationship strong. It’s also been harder to find time for ourselves taking care of a baby. This is why I want to make special efforts in making my significant other a priority. We’ll try for date nights or to cook together and have quality family time. My question this month will be: is what I am currently doing, going to bring me more connection with my significant other or my family?
Month 3- connection with my child- it is important to me to foster a great connection with my baby. When we’re together or as a family, I want to focus on being present when we play or learn. I will enjoy our moments together and get to know this amazing little human. My question will be: am I being fully present to connect with my child?
Month 4- connection with family and friends- these relationships are very important to me and are part of my village. I want to foster these connections.
Month 5- connection with my business- I love what I do and I am very fortunate to have amazing patients. I love connecting with them and watching their lives change for the better.
What are other areas that you would like to focus on? Finances, health, etc? Pick the areas you want to focus on and get started!!
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I’ve only recently become a parent but have learned so much already in the short period of time.
Here are 5 lessons that I’ve learned and am still learning.
Thank you baby Lincoln for teaching me so much in your short time here. Looking forward to even more lessons to come!
What are some of the important lessons that your children have taught you? Comment below.
It has been 1 month since I became a parent. It’s also been 1 month since I’ve been on a continuous roller coaster ride. I thought I had a concept of what it would be like to be a parent and that our lives would change but I did not have the knowing of it in my nervous system.
The first week, I learned what extraordinary things my body was capable of...labour, birth, producing milk for baby. Things it innately knew how to do and had programmed within it but it had never done before.
Emotionally, my heart expanded even bigger to include another human. It was a sleepless week of joy, wonder and learning.
At week 2, my husband went back to work and I had to learn (the hard way) what I had attached my identity to. What I did not know before baby Lincoln was how much freedom/ independence I experienced until I didn’t have it anymore.
When I wanted to leave the house before, it took me 5 minutes. If wanted to go to the store, I would go. If I wanted to visit a friend, see a movie, go out for dinner, I could...and now, going out required another level of planning.
Our first outing was supposed to be to the store to get Halloween candy for trick or treater’s...by the time I changed him, fed him, changed him again, got ready myself...we made it as far as the car seat when I gave up on going out.
The next day, we fared a little better. We made it to our appointment...late. I am never late to my appointments. Ever. I also made the mistake of not feeding Lincoln before we got back in the car so he cried all the way home. I was driving and couldn’t feed him so I cried with him while I drove. Welcome to parenthood.
As the weeks passed, we are learning more about each other and how to travel as a unit. Things have been getting better, as they often do, with practice.
Being a parent is hard. It’s also amazing and lonely (3am feedings). It can make you feel like a failure, or a superhero. You can go crazy, have the patience of a saint or be impatient. It can bring out the best version of you and the worst. It is a dichotomy and so is life. Hang on to the roller coaster and enjoy the ride!
To all the parents out there, you are not alone and you are superheros!
To my earth angels aka family, friends, strangers who have stopped in to help, thank you from the bottom of our hearts! It really does take a village to raise a child...and to help out their mother.
Discipline is often seen as boring. We are doing the same habits over and over again. The secret is that discipline can actually lead to freedom.
For example, when we tend to have too much time on our hands (no discipline), we waste it because we get bored and need to think about what to do with our time.
Decision fatigue is when you get tired from making too many decision at a time. For instance, what to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner. What to wear for work, who to call, which route you take to drive to wherever you are going, etc. By the end of your day, you have no more energy because you’ve been making too many decisions.
A way to counteract this is to decrease the number of decisions you make in a day and allow your brain to focus on more important things. Instill discipline into your day so you think about smaller things, less. CEO’s like Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook, wear the same clothing (jeans and a black t-shirt) every day to work so he doesn’t have to think about what to wear. If you cultivate discipline in planning your meals ahead of time, scheduling your gym routine, taking care of your health, getting your clothes ready, taking the same route to work, etc. Your brain could save energy for things that are more important to you. This is freedom of mind!
If you are looking for freedom from sickness and poor health. What discipline would be required? Would you pre-determine your foods, workouts, doctor’s appointments, take preventative health measures?
To gain financial freedom, would you have the discipline to put aside money, to invest, to not buy the extra starbucks coffee?
Discipline sets you free!!
How do you instill discipline into your life? Leave a comment below.
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.