Your pain in your shoulder, back, neck, relationships, finances, etc, is not the problem. Pain is only the manifestation of the problem.
Imagine you had low back pain for 6 months and you came into my office. You’ve had pain for 6 months, why did you decide at that moment to make the call to come in? You were already dealing with the discomfort for so long. The answer isn’t because of the pain.
Perhaps your low back pain prevented you from going to work and making a living. Maybe you couldn’t play with your grandchild anymore. For others, the pain keeps them from being intimate with their partners. The majority of the time, it is a quality of life issue that forces us to make the call to do something about the pain.
Ask yourself, what is this pain keeping me from doing?
To take it a step further, not only do we want to know the quality of life issue that brought you into our office, we also want to know, what emotions are behind the pain.
Are you frustrated that you got hurt? Are you sad that you are still sick? Are you fed-up with work and need a change in your life? Do you keep attracting the same type of people in your relationships? Are you behind on filing your taxes?
Once we know what you are really searching for and the emotions that you are experiencing, we can better help you in taking the action steps required to help you achieve your goals.
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A patient came into my office after having seen a car accident happen that shook her. She had been traumatised by it and noticed that she kept playing the scene over and over again in her head for the next week. Each time she re-watched it, she noticed that her jaw would tense up and her shoulders and neck muscles would tighten.
Her body had gotten frozen in time due to what she had witnessed. Because she replayed the event many times, her body didn’t have enough time to unfreeze itself. She also started to hardwire the event into her nervous system.
Together, we tried a strategy to unfreeze her body.
When you watch a bad movie that you don’t like, do you keep watching it over and over again? No, you put on a different movie! SO, when you replay a bad event over and over again, we have to change the movie.
This technique helped me get over some of my childhood fears of scary movies. When I was younger, I used to have bad dreams after watching anything scary in a movie. When it was time for bed, I used to turn out the light and take a running jump onto my bed so that the monsters did not get me at night. This is how I changed it….
Note that this is for simple cases of trauma. If a serious trauma occurred for you, please seek professional help.
Want to go through this exercise with someone? Let me know at your next visit.
If you had been following our facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/neurooptimization/) for the month of February, you may have noticed that we had tips each day on how you can appreciate yourself.
By popular request, here is the full list.
We are usually so busy taking care of others that we forget to look after ourselves.
Jan 31- To celebrate Appreciate Yourself Month we are releasing tips each day in Feb to help you love and appreciate you! #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 1- Take 5 mins to sit and breathe
Breath is essential to life. How often do you take time to sit and be with you. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Do this for 5 minutes. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 2- List 3 things you are grateful for
When we focus on expands. Focus on what you are grateful for and you will get more of it. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 3- Try something new today
When you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you always got. Try something new and add novelty to your life. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 4- Spend time with someone you love
You don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone. Is there someone special in your life that you love and appreciate? Spend some extra time with them. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 5- Give yourself a hug
Hugs are healing, soothing and comforting. Wrap your arms around you and give yourself a great big hug. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 6- Do something nice for a stranger
The best way to feel good is to do something nice for someone who’s not expecting it. Watch their face and see how they light up when you’ve surprised them. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 7- Give yourself a compliment
We tend to say negative things to ourselves. Today, we switch that around...look at yourself in the mirror and say, “Hey there, hot stuff” or “You are amazing! Get out there and change the world!” #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 8- Hydrate yourself, drink water
Your body is mostly made up of water. Make sure you stay hydrated by drinking enough. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 9- Nourish your body with healthy food
You are what you eat. Your body breaks down the food you put in your mouth and creates cells. What are you made up of? #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 10- Move your body
If you don’t move it, you lose it. If you retrain it, you can regain it. Are you feeling stiff? Are there parts of you in pain? Have you lost your flexibility? The answer is in movement. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 11- No complaining day
Today we’re going to observe how often we complain throughout the day. Change your focus and you change your life. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 12- Go screen free
Have you been spending too much time glued to your cellphone, computer or ipad? Take a break from technology for a day and go screen free. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 13- Connect with nature
With all the new technology, we spend less and less time outdoors with nature. To better connect with yourself, go outside and experience the fresh air and energy of the earth. #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 14- Tell someone you love them
Sometimes we are in such a hurry doing things, we forget to tell those that we care about how we feel about them. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 15- Treat yourself to something nice
Here are some ideas: massage, spa, nap, bubble bath, book, etc. Treats to do have to be expensive. My favourite weekend treat is a nap. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 16- Forgive someone
Have you been holding onto a grudge for a long time? Perhaps the person you are upset with has already passed on, moved away or forgotten. Holding on to grudges hurts you. Let go. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 17- Forgive yourself for something
Do you watch a movie that you hate over and over again? Why would you replay a bad event in your life over and over? #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 18- Celebrate a win
Take time to be proud of what you’ve accomplished. Even if it’s a little step. The little steps add up to big steps. Little wins to big wins. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 19- Reconnect with a friend
Is there someone that you lost contact with? Have you just gotten too busy to keep in touch? It’s time to say hi again. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 20- Review your goals
Did you make any new year’s resolutions? It’s time to check in with them to see your progress. Didn’t make any? Start now. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 21- Make finances your friend
Do not be scared of your finances. Knowledge + action is power. Find out how you are doing. If it’s good, see how it can get better. If you need help, find someone. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 22- Invest in your future
Have you planned for your future or that of your families? #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 23- Register for a course
It’s never too late to learn something new! When you learn, you brain make connections in a way they have not before. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 24- Start a journal
A journal is a place where you can sort out your thoughts, notice your patterns and it makes a cost effective psychologist. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 25- Write a letter to your younger self
If you could go back in time and visit your younger self, what would you have told them? #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 26- Sing your favourite song
Music is therapeutic. Sing with some friends, sing by yourself in your car or in the shower. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 27- Dance
Dance like no one’s watching. It’s fun. Come on, give it a try. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
February 28- Visit your neuro chiropractor
It’s your last day! Congrats! You made it. I’m so proud of you. Let me give you a high five in person. #loveyourself #appreciateyoumonth #neurooptimization
Do you ever feel like you’re doing the same thing over and over again? Are you bored and looking to try something new?
STOP. Before you quit your job, end your relationship, buy a new house/car...ask yourself first:
Do you really need to try/buy something new or do you need to look at something old in a new way?
Often times, we give up on things too early when we get bored. We may start to think that we need a change when what we really need a change in perspective.
If you changed jobs every time you get bored, you may not stay long enough to reap the rewards that you could have had had you stayed dedicated and committed to something. Imagine changing relationships every 2 years? What would you miss?
So, how can you change your perspective?
Go back to a beginner’s mind. Remember when you first learned to drive a car, you were hyper aware of everything? You got so excited just to get into the car and were nervous turning it on and you checked every mirror 10 times before pulling out of your driveway.
How about the feelings you have when you first start a relationship? The butterflies in your stomach, excitement of meeting someone for the first time. You got excited about NOVELTY.
The beginner’s mind is about newness. See if you can look at your current job, relationships, etc in a new way. How can you create something new where you are?
Need help? Call our office for a free 15 minute consultation.
People often ask what happens when I get sick or when I’m in pain. Well, let me start by saying that doctor’s are not any more special than everyone else. I get sick and am in pain too and it’s an opportunity to practice what I preach.
A few weeks ago, I started having a pulling sensation behind my ear. This happens a few times a year and usually lasts a few days. Whenever it does, I try to figure out what my body is trying to tell me.
My first question is, what patterns could have caused this? Physically, I wear glasses all day long, when there’s an especially long day and tiring day or a few in a row, my glasses hurt the back of my ears. Also, if my hair is tied back in a ponytail too long, this can occur. So, did this occur? Yes. So that’s a physical explanation.
Next, I ask myself what emotional and mental patterns are there. I came up with 1. working extra hours to help out a friend 2. overstretching myself with bookings outside of work. Perhaps, my body is trying to tell me to slow down and rest.
Once, I have some possible explanations, I move on to breathing exercises for that part of my body. I put my hands over the area in pain and breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth. I then start talking to that area by acknowledging that it’s in pain and seeing if there are any emotions or thoughts associated with it. For more on this breathing exercise, please come to our monthly workshops where we go through several breathing techniques.
After talking to the area, I work on reducing and changing my patterns and observe my body to see if it makes a difference.
In this instance, I choose to sleep in and rest longer even though I scheduled myself time to be doing paper work. I took off my glasses for longer periods and kept my hair down. I noticed that within a couple days, what worked best was the extra rest. So, I went to bed earlier than usual and made sure to feed my body the nutrients it needed.
When the pain disappeared, I thanked my body for the message.
Need help figuring out what your body’s trying to tell you? Come in for a free 15 minute consultation where a consultation is simply a conversation.
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.