Two days ago, I was cutting up cherries for my son’s snack. When I finished cutting the cherries, I gave him his bowl and went to put away the rest of the bag. When he saw I was putting away the bag, he started to point to the bag and cry. I then told him “focus on what you have in front of you”.....
Then I thought to myself, wow, that’s pretty good advice! My son was so focused on what he was losing, he couldn’t see that he had a bowl of cherries in front of him. He also can’t see that if he ate all the cherries he already had, he may not want more. Nor would he know that if he finished and wanted more, we could just cut more up.
How many times have we focused on what we don’t have instead of what we already do have? When we’re looking to buy a new car, house, etc. be sure to take a minute to say thanks for the house or car/bus/taxi, etc that you already do have.
This is not to say that we don’t strive to reach our goals or to strive for more. We want to be grateful for what we have at the same time as reaching for more.
Gratitude draws upon a certain energy frequency. If you’re not sure what that means. Imagine the last time you were angry at something. Feel your body and how it’s reacting. You may notice a charge or even a discomfort in some area of your body. Now, think of the last time you were grateful for something. You may notice that your body gets lighter, you feel ‘better’ or your energy moves upwards in your body. Play around with the different emotions and see how they affect you.
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Dear Valued Patient,
I wanted to take this opportunity to fill you in on some exciting news. At the beginning of July, when I come back from maternity leave, I will be moving my practice from its current location to practice with Dr. Marie Matheson at her new office, Bioheal Ottawa. Bioheal is conveniently located 5 minutes from our current location.
I’m grateful for my time here at Hampton as it’s helped craft myself into a top professional in my field. The new opportunity that I’ve chosen to follow is into an environment of great colleagues who I have shared many successful patient outcomes with. It’s an organic change and if you choose to follow me into this next chapter I can assure you that your health will remain in very capable hands.
Thank you for being a part of our family! Thank you for your support over the years at Hampton Wellness Centre. It has truly been an honour to serve and get to know you here. I’m looking forward to our new adventure together.
If you have any questions of concerns, feel free to e-mail me personally at firstname.lastname@example.org For bookings until June 30, please continue to contact the Hampton Wellness Centre at 613-761-1600. For bookings at Bioheal Ottawa (after July 1, 2019), please call 613-446-6060.
With warm regards,
Dr. Amanda Chan
Do you remember how exciting it was the first time you rode your bike or drove a car? How about your first kiss or your first day at school?
Now, compare that to your daily drive into work or your 1000th day at school. Why are you no longer excited? We are excited by things that are novel and new. When we’ve done something over and over again, we get bored and stop seeing it as a new experience.
This is also why we keep on seeking new things, we get a lot of energy from newness.
Seeking new adventures is great as it expands your horizons, calls you to grow outside of your comfort zone, etc. However, it is not realistic to seek newness all the time. For example, you can’t keep finding a new job every day or you might not want to find a new partner every day. So, what can you do?
You can find newness in the way you see your day to day. Here are some ways to see something as new again:
Make your experience new to get your excited once again. When you stop seeing the newness, you started seeing people as a concept. You must experienced an experience as novel to gain the energy from it. When everything becomes a procedure, a chore, a task, etc. there is no more novelty.
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When you feel an emotion, there is a gap between when you experience the emotion and when you respond to what you’ve experienced. For some, the gap is smaller than others and that’s where you could see how someone may be labelled ‘quick to anger’.
And how is our response determined? By our past experiences, especially if they were painful events. When an event happens, our reptilian brain labels it as safe/unsafe, good/bad, or pain/pleasure. Thi is to protect you. If another event happens that reminds your brain of a previous painful event, it will right away react in the same fashion as before...even if the circumstances are not the same!
This means that if for example, you had a negative association with a parent growing up, when you meet someone that reminds you of your parent, you will react with the same behaviours, feelings, etc as with your parent.
This is why first impressions are important, once you’ve put someone into a category, good/bad, is late/early, etc. you tend to leave them in that category, especially if you’ve known them for a while. Now, imagine that they’ve changed and are no longer that label...how do you change the way that you’ve labelled them?
The challenge is that your conclusions on an event or person are based on your tools that you used to interpret your situation.
The solution is to change the way that you see a past event. For example, if you had a tough childhood and had to overcome many obstacles, you may now view it is life preparing you to be the amazing person that you are. Life was just building your resilience skills as opposed to life trying to beat you down.
If you change your story about a situation or a person, you change the way you see them. Change the way you see someone and you change yourself and your past.
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In order to become great at something, you will experience failure...and it will happen often. Greatness doesn’t happen in one day, it happens over time. For example, to become a great pianist, it takes years and years of dedication to a craft.
There is no guarantee to greatness either. We’ve all heard of child prodigies in certain areas and they grow up not to be in the same areas later on in life.
You can’t win and become great by staying within your comfort zone either….if this were the case, you’d already be where you want to be. Calculated risks need to be acted upon at the right time.
You can’t be great without taking some sort of action. And once you are aware of the actions steps that take you towards your goal, you get to do them over and over and over again until you get there.
Mistakes are part of the process and can be seen as a stepping stone to your goals. Make the mistakes, fail often and correct along the way.
Being great sounds like a lot of hard work...and it is...so why would be want to do it? Because it allows you to reach your full potential. This makes you feel good, which makes it worth it.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.