Our families can be our teachers. Sometimes, we like what we see and we try to repeat what we were taught. What we see and don’t like, we can change in ourselves and the next generation after us. Other times, we pick things up unconsciously and don’t become aware that it becomes a part of us until later on.
Growing up, finances were always tight. My immigrant mother was a single mom, worked all day, went to school during the evenings and raised 2 kids without help as her family was on the other side of the world.
I learned so much from my mom and continue to do so today. What I wasn’t aware of was a pattern that I had learned through her.
A few nights ago, my partner and I were discussing finances. He was able to have a rational and calm discussion while I found myself getting irritated when he asked more in deapth questions or gave me suggestions on how to handle a situation. I had my way of handling a situation and wasn’t open to listening to his way, even though I could see the holes in my way. He noticed I was getting flustered and raising my voice and asked why.
I stepped away to get a drink of water and then became aware that I was having a stress, fight or flight response. I felt under attack in some way...even though the conversation was completely calm. I came back and apologised and listened to the other side.
It wasn’t until the next day while I was doing the dishes that it hit me. I was reacting to this situation like I had watched my mom do before! Groan...I was perpetuating the family pattern! I laughed once I realized this. It also allowed me to take a more balanced approach to things.
Next time you react to something, ask yourself. Where did I get this pattern from? Why am I reacting this way when there is no actual threat.
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We’ve talked before on how doing new things creates more energy. When this energy is present, you can take advantage of it to supercharge your life.
Have you ever stayed up late or woken up really early because you were excited about something? When I was preparing for the big move to my new office, Bioheal Ottawa, I was so excited that I had the extra energy to stay up late and wake up earlier to do work. Also, the work did not seem like work. I was fueled by a different energy source.
How well do you sleep the night before going on an exciting vacation? How about the night before starting a new job? Before your wedding? If you’re like me, I don’t sleep well at all. I get so excited, I can’t sleep.
How can you recognized when this fuel of newness is present in your body? Some people describe it as excitement. Others can feel a buzzing, or tingling sensation running throughout their body. Some are aware of the plethora of thoughts running in their mind or ideas that come out of nowhere. It may even seem like you don’t feel the need to sleep.
Whatever the case, the energy of newness can be channeled to turbocharge your life. Use it wisely! And when you notice that it’s worked it’s way through you, remember to get some rest.
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As many of your know, I recently gave birth. This was my second labour and after a long first labour, I was not looking forward to doing it again.
When I first started to feel the pain and discomfort of the contractions, I tensed my muscles and shortened my breath in anticipation of the pain. I even started to wish the contractions away (not conducive to giving birth). Deep, down, I knew that this was not the answer because, birth is not usually a quick process and the pain was going to get worse before it got better.
I knew I needed to change my current state so I called a friend of mine who is a doula. Her advice was to invite the pain. I was to picture each contraction as my body giving a hug to the baby. I was to use all the focus and attention that I could muster to fight the urge to tense and instead relax every muscle and allow my body to do what it naturally knew how to do. I was to stop fighting my body….easier said than done.
So, for each coming contraction, I focused on my breath. I focused on expelling out all the air that I could. I told my body to relax. I started with my toes and worked my way up to my face. To my surprise, the pain became more tolerable! It still hurt like crazy but I could do it.
I also noticed that when I was not prepared for a contraction, my instinct was to tense, fight my body and have my mind panic. This brought on more pain which then caused more tension in my body.
As the day continued and the pain got worse, I had to focus more and go internally. I talked to my baby during the birth, saying that we were going to do this together. I told her how excited everyone was to meet her. I surrendered to the pain and trusted that my body knew what to do and how to do it. My body contains all the DNA of my ancestors who’ve birthed children before me and so I can also do it.
It was one of the hardest things I had to do..but it was worth it. Birth was a lesson in persistence, surrender, trust, support...and I never want to go through it again.
Each birth is different and a learning experience and opportunity. What did you learn form your births? Leave a message below.
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Did you know that your body loves you? Some of you may not believe this because you’re sick, in pain or you don’t feel you’re healing from something fast enough. Some of you may have had so many health challenges that you think your body is working against you. But it’s not.
Your body loves you and here is why:
Your body loves you so much, maybe it’s time you loved it back. Need help loving your body? 613-761-1600
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.