Things happen and sometimes we get angry. When we fully feel and experience and emotion, it only lasts for minutes to hours. But what about the person who always seems to be angry, grumpy or in a bad mood? They have turned what is an emotion into a state. A state is created by the mind when you replay things over and over again. When we watch a bad movie, do we watch it again and again? Of course not! So why would you replay a ‘bad’ event in your life over and over again in your head?
Here are some strategies my patients and I have found helpful in letting go of bad states:
Physical, emotional and mental tension that is not resolved gets stored in your body. Over time, you run out of ‘storage space’ and secondary conditions such as pain, can occur. Learn to optimize your nervous system by letting go.
Often times my patients complain of neck and shoulder pain due to sitting at a desk all day, being in front of a computer with poor posture or attending long meetings with uncomfortable chairs.
This occurs because we were not meant to be seated all day. Our bodies were designed to move around.
Here are 10 tips for you to move more while you’re at work.
Movement is life! The more you move, the better it is for your body, emotions and mind.
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I did not know that every thought and experience is imprinted on my spine. That was my first lesson with Dr. Amanda. During one of our first meetings, two years ago, she took me on one of the most fascinating journeys of my life, making pit stops on my spine’s highway, with questions such as: What happened when you were eight? What was happening why you felt lonely around 12? What shifted at 16?
My second lesson with Dr. Amanda occurred after my first entrainment session. In just 15 minutes, I discovered I did not have to live with back and knee pain, that had brought me to her, for the rest of my life.
Perhaps the greatest lesson Dr. Amanda has taught me is the importance of tuning into and listening to my body. As a former athlete, and, as one raised to keep calm and carry on no matter what life throws at you, I was trained to live with pain. It was through my work with Dr. Amanda, that I discovered that pain carries a message or a gift to help release what is b lo c k in g m e f ro m livi n g wholeheartedly. This discovery has helped me to release tensions and anxieties around pleasing people at the expense of my soul; release playing small, especially in situations where there are disagreements and conflict; and releasing the need to prove my worth through performance and perfection.
There are three significant areas where I have transformed my life and awaken to new possibilities. I have a new relationship with rest. I now sleep six to eight hours instead of three to four hours. I also negotiated with my body to work a maximum of 4-5 hours of overtime per week, and no work on the weekends unless there is a valid exception. I also have a new relationship with my breath. Shallow, gasping breath has been replaced with deep breathing that travels the length of my spine. As well, at a moment’s notice, I can now direct my breath to those parts of my body that need it the most to release whatever no longer serves me. Thirdly, I have a new confidence in the possibility of living fully my heart’s desire. Recently, my heart told me:
“I live in a caged wall of bones. Freely. You live with caged wings. Mindlessly. I know my heart was giving me my next release assignment with Dr. Amanda. I know this phase will take me to depths I have never gone before to feel what I feel, to embrace my vulnerabilities as strength, and, to speak my truth like never before. Here is the first step on my new journey.
Shamed, scarred, scared to be seen I suffer in silence,
Struggling to scrape through stormy days
Searching for, seeking shelter
Sacrificing soul for success
Survival screams for stillness
Sadness shares scars
Slowly, sipping soothing silence
Spirit speaks softly, Spirit to Spirit
Surrender, surrender, surrender it all
Suckle the sweetness of significance
You can find her poetry and writing in her book, Pebbles in the Pond, Wave Three.
Last week, I was stopped at a red light in my car waiting for it to turn green when I was hit from behind. As we were both stopped, the hit was at a slow speed and there wasn’t much damage to my car or the other. Both of the drivers were ok and for that I feel blessed.
After realizing I was hit, I signaled to the other driver to pull over to check the damaged. As I did that, I had the awareness to observe my body and how it reacted. At first, there was no noticeable reaction. It was not until 5 minutes later that I observed changes. It was as if my body actually realised what it had gone through. My heart started to race, my face was flushed and my hands started to shake. All of this from a tiny car accident!
Later on, when I got back into my car to continue on my journey, I noticed that my driving had changed. I tended to brake sooner than I would normally and allow for LOTS of space between vehicles. I was hyper reactive and aware. This hyper driving lasted for even a few days later.
Then it occurred to me, if this is what happens to our body during a minor incident, what do we store after a major one? What are the physical, emotional and mental layers we have stored in our bodies from traumatic experiences. What happens in the case of multiple traumas accumulated over time? It is no wonder that people who come in to see me have have neuro abnormality in their body.
The day after, I went to my chiropractor to get my nervous system checked. After feeling my neck and spine, he asked if I had my head turned while I was hit. I looked back and it was possible because I was making a left hand turn and that light would have been place on that side. My chiropractor was able to work on it and release the tension.
If you or someone you know has been in an accident or gone through recent emotional trauma, please get their nervous system checked.
Today's blog is from my August Update. If you'd like the entire newsletter, you can find it here: http://hamptonwellnesscentre.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/August-2015-Edition.pdf
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.