Why is it that we fear change so much? For some people, they fear change so much so that they freeze in their place and can’t move.
The reason for this is because we see change as a threat. Even if the change is something that we want, our nervous system sees it as something that is trying to attack us.
When we’re under attack or the illusion of being under attack, our body goes into fight, flight or freeze mode. This is an old system of protection for our body. It was so that back in the caveman days, if we came face to face with a bear or lion, we could run away or try to fight.
This defence mechanism is in our nervous system to protect us i.e. if we’re being chased, about to be attacked etc. but most of the time, our lives are not in danger.
Change is unknown. If you quit your job, end your relationship etc, there is no guarantee in your mind that it will all work out...even if most of the time, it does all work out. This fear, then activates your flight/ fight and you are scared into staying where you are.
So, how do you keep your system from activating? First, tell your body over and over again that it is not under attack and that it is safe (assuming that your life is not in danger). Next, you need to do the thing that you are scared to do over and over again until your nervous system no longer recognizes it as a threat.
Think back to when change was learning to sit up, stand, walk, ride a bike. Any skill that you’ve learned, you once didn’t know it. The first time might be scary but once you kept doing it, it got easier.
Remember, ships are safest in the habour but that’s not what ships are built for.
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Studying your behaviours can lead to interesting revelations about your subconscious body. A while ago, one of my patients mentioned that he observed that he collected certain things (flashlights, socks, shoes, etc) and wanted to know what drew him to those objects.
We first examined why he was drawn to buying flashlights and why he had so many of them. After asking about his childhood, we discovered that he was afraid of the dark and light made him feel better. So, now, in adulthood, he collects flashlights.
With that experience, I asked what drew me to some of the things that I’ve been interested in lately. When my son was first born, I was obsessed with babywearing. Babywearing is using wraps, slings, carriers, etc to attach your baby to you instead of having to hold them with your arms. I ended up with far more carriers than I needed or used. It wasn’t until I looked at what babywearing meant to me that I understood why I wanted so many. Babywearing meant freedom for me while still being able to keep baby close. I could put him in a carrier, and still have both arms free to get things done. I could carry him with me where I went and not have to worry. Since my discovery, I have been able to get rid of some of my carriers and only keep the ones I use more often.
What are some of the things you obsess about or have too much of? What do they represent for you? Need help with this? Ask me at your next appointment and we can figure it out together.
Why are your different states important? They dictate how you view a situation and how you react. If you are in a negative state, let’s take anger as an example, then others will feel your anger. Your actions will be angry and you may say and do things that you don’t mean to in your interactions with others. If you are in a state of gratitude, you would have different, perceptions, behaviours, thoughts, etc.
Your energy state also determines how you remember something. If you are in an energy poor, tired, and drained state, when something happened to you, you would remember it as painful or a trauma. If you were energy neutral at the time, your memory would be ok. However, if you were charged and in an awesome state, you would see the gift in the situation. All the events could be the same but how you remember it is based on your energy state at the time.
So what are the different states of energy? They are energy poor, energy neutral and energy rich.
In an energy poor state, the system has no energy and it’s about survival. You need energy coming into the system to help it survive. In the body, this is when there’s tissue death, organs start to break down, pain occurs. In life, it’s when the marriage breaks up, you file for divorce, file for bankruptcy, etc. This state is about surviving for a little longer.
In an energy neutral state, there is enough energy to sustain itself as long as there are no surprises or additional stresses. This is where most of us live. This is about feeling comfortable, control and fitting in. Here, you have a story about something i.e you’re not good enough, tall enough, pretty enough, etc and you can’t go beyond it.
In an energy rich state, there is enough energy that it can give more energy to the system to help it reorganize. There’s energy left over to inspire others and think beyond the culture. Energy rich states means having more resourcefulness.
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Firstly, I am mandated by the chiropractic college to have a certain about of continuing education hours each year. I have always considered this to be the minimum amount and I take more than is required, every year. This is to ensure that my skills are at the highest levels to support the type of care that I deliver and to serve my patients to the best of my abilities.
I work with people and we are dynamic beings, always moving, changing, growing, evolving and new techniques and technologies are required to adapt to the ever changing needs of a person.
In April, I went to an intermediate and advanced technique workshop and I was conflicted in going. I wanted to go because I was excited to learn and yet I felt guilty because I would be away from my young child for the entire workweek and then the weekend. I hemmed and hawed and signed up for the course. I told myself, that if I were to go, I would need to be fully present because it would have to be worth my time away from my family….and it was.
Firstly, I learned more technical skills to improve the quality of care that I am giving. I built upon what I already knew and further refined care at the higher levels. This itself has made a world of difference.
More importantly, I improved upon myself, the person delivering the care. I realised that I’ve been operating out of habit and on auto-pilot and that I was getting bored. There were moments where I was inspired but it was never long lasting.
During the workshop, I had the chance and was forced to see how I had been operating and given the opportunity to increase my energy levels to operate at a new capacity. The result being, an increased level of presence in the office, renewed joy while working with patients, gratitude for my family and feeling more of who I know myself to be.
When I change myself, and it is a conscious choice to change, and shift my state; I affect everyone that I come in contact with which in turns affects those that others come in contact with. Over time, you never know how far reaching each interaction can be.
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Similar to leaving your fingerprints everywhere you go, you also leave a trace of your emotions.
I was watching a cooking show called Master Chef and one of the cooks was getting frustrated because his dish was not going as planned and the time was running out. One of the judges came by and told him that he was cooking with anger and showed him how it showed up in the food he was making. His pasta was ripping and smushed up. He was putting his anger into his food and the person who ate it, would then receive the emotions.
This happens when we cook at home as well. If we’re tired from a long work day and come home, the way we chop our food, the way we stir our dishes, etc. will also be transferred into our food. When our family eats it, they will feel that way also.
This is the same in all other aspects of your life. If you are angry when you get home, what emotional blueprints do you leave behind? When you cook, clean and interact with your family what emotions are present?
Take note and if you are not happy with what you’re leaving, change your state. Perhaps try cooking with gratitude and love. See how this affects your food….and in turn your life.
I did this experiment personally as well. I was getting tired of pumping milk for baby Lincoln several times a day while at work and was starting to think of it as a chore. One day, while I was pumping, I thought, what else could I be doing while I’m pumping to improve upon this experience? I came up with, I could infuse gratitude into this experience. So, I thought of all the people and things in my life that I was grateful for. I thought of how pumping milk provides nourishment and comfort to my child and how many people can’t or struggle to do this. By the end of my session, I was so happy for this experience. I know that this milk he drinks will be even better than the previous.
What can you do to change your emotional blueprint for yourself, those around you, your community, and all of humanity. Leave your comments below.
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.