Do you find yourself lacking in confidence sometimes while other times, you have all the confidence in the world?
How can we regain our confidence once it’s gone? The secret is to get your confidence from your previous successes.
I usually tell patients to keep a journal of their wins. The things are they asked for that came true, the times when they didn’t trust in something and it turned out ok in the end, the times they doubted themselves and their fears never came to be. They are to use their journal whenever they doubt something will happen, when they worry or lose faith.
What causes us to lose faith or confidence? When the sun doesn’t come out for a day, we don’t think that the sun will never come out again. Why is that? It’s because the sun has proven over and over, time and time again that it will eventually come back out again.
This is what we have to do to gain back our confidence. Have examples that the “sun” (our relationships, finances, health, etc) will come back out again.
To start your confidence journal, here are some questions you can ask yourself
The more success you have, the more you can build on it. When you don’t think that you can do something, look back at your journal.
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As I’m going through this pregnancy, I’m discovering so many things about myself. It’s been a great opportunity to practice some life lessons.
This week, the lesson has been to choose between fear or progress.
When we are in a state of fear, we are scared that we are going to lose something. In the case of pregnancy, most people are aware at some point about the possibility of a miscarriage, especially during the first trimester. After that, there can be a myriad of things and tests that can be on your mind. If you choose to go down the road of fear, one can be in for a long 9 months. Other fears could include, losing the life that you currently have as things will change with a child.
When we are fearful, or scared we want safety and comfort. This means that our thoughts and choices that we make will be made of that as well. For example, if you had a fear of gaining weight, you may make a different decision on eating a cake or dessert, you may exercise extra or take other precautions. During pregnancy, it could mean excess worry, cutting back on activities that you would normally do, just in case. Note that in pregnancy, you may stop doing things out of fear as opposed to being told what to stop by your healthcare provider.
So, what is another choice? You can choose progress and growth.
When we want to grow, we feel more connected in our lives, give our gifts and contribute. While it will be important to be aware of the possible events that can occur, it is not possible to prevent all of them from occurring. So, what’s left instead? Trust.
Trust that your body has been programmed with the wisdom of all the ages. Trust that your body has the ability to do what it needs to and at the right moment. Trust that there is always an opportunity to learn a life lessons, no matter how painful.
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Why is it so important to take the time to examine your thoughts and where they come from? It’s because your thoughts and beliefs trigger the power for you to take action in your life.
If your thoughts and beliefs are old and no longer serve you, those actions that you take because of them will also not be right for you.
Imagine that when you were a child, someone told you that you were bad at taking tests and that you believed them. What actions would come from that thought? Perhaps you would say, I’m not even going to study, what’s the point? I’m going to fail anyways. Or, why even try? How would this one simple thought that you believed affect the rest of your life if you continue to believe it?
Now, instead of believing a negative thought, what if you believed in a powerful one? What if you were taught that you could do anything that you put your mind to? What would happen every time a challenge came up for you?
It is extremely important to be aware of our words because we don’t know how it could affect someone else in their lifetime. This is especially true for children who develop their sense of self, right or wrong and belief systems from those around them.
Take time to examine your belief and thoughts and observe the actions that flow from them. Don’t like the actions you are taking or not taking? Change the belief system through your body from your nervous system.
It’s easy to come up with ideas. Out there, there are millions and millions of ideas. Ideas to change the world and make it a better place, ideas to start a business, ideas to be a better person, etc. Tons of ideas, but most of them stay at that, ideas.
Why is that?
It’s because it doesn’t require that much work to come up with an idea. Ideas are free. When the work starts in turning your idea into something concrete i.e. a business, a structure, etc. It’s when the behaviours need to happen and we think of all the work that we need to do to implement our idea, that we stop.
It’s the start where most people stop.
How many times have you had the idea to go to the gym and be more active? You may have even gone to a gym and signed up for a membership...and then you never went again...except to cancel the membership. The idea of working out sounded nice, but the implementation takes work and that’s where it stopped.
What about that great business idea you came up with to make money. Perhaps you thought of writing a book or creating an online program….and then you got busy and never implemented it. A few years later, you remember your wonderful idea and wonder where you would be now, had you acted on that idea.
Next time you feel like you have a great idea, remember that if you simply start it, you are already ahead of the rest of people who don’t even try.
Over time, if you keep starting things over and over again, eventually, you will build a habit and it will become easier.
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There is always something to fear, so what do you do when you fear?
Fear also has 2 acronyms: Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise
As most of you know, we’re expecting our first child very soon and with that, comes lots of unknowns and sometimes fears. So, how do you deal with fear?
This is the series of fears that I thought about surrounding birth. At first, there was worry surrounding getting pregnant, then once pregnancy was confirmed, there’s worry around having a miscarriage. After the first trimester when the incidence of miscarriage decreases, you move into your second trimester and you are told to be on the lookout for preterm labour. When you make it through that and to term, you worry about the baby coming late. Then there’s the actual birth process and then everything that comes with having a newborn that you are now responsible for.
Imagine you followed this thought train for the rest of your life. How many fears would you have feared that did not happen? Most of them! You would have wasted so much time worrying about the things that never happened. Also, whenever life throws you something unexpected, all you can do is to adapt and find a way.
Now, if I had decided to think about all these fears on a regular basis, what would the baby inside of me absorb? All those fears. That is a process of how parents pass along some of their fears to their children even before they are born.
We also carry with us, the fears from multiple generations through the thoughts and DNA that is passed down. Scary! There is a solution to this!
You resolve the fear for you and you resolve it for the generations that came before you and those to come after you as well.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.