Does your confidence go up and down? Some days you can feel like you can do anything or be anything, while other days, you wonder why you even got out of bed. This yo-yo of confidence doesn’t have to be this way. Here are 4 ways to build confidence that is sustainable.
1. Take action over and over again
This is especially true when you make mistakes. There is no such thing as a mistake free life. LIfe isn’t about being perfect the entire way through. Life is about learning, and getting back up when you get knocked down. The only way to succeed is to keep trying.
“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!”
― Sylvester Stallone, Rocky Balboa
2. Understand Your Patterns
If you know your patterns and how you react in different circumstances, you can start to change them. What happens when you feel attacked or someone angers you?
Do you withdraw from the conversation?
If it is someone close to you with whom you are arguing, do you withhold something from them? Do you withhold love until they apologize?
Do you fight back? Come out with guns blazing and tell the other person all the ways that they have wronged you in the past?
Do you become quiet? You don’t say a word, even if it’s to defend yourself or someone you love. You would rather not have confrontation.
Take a minute to evaluate your reactions when you feel challenged by someone.
3. Know Your Value
What do you have to offer to this world? You are here with a unique set of gifts, talents and experiences….along with the ability to help others and contribute to making this world a better place. You are important and you matter!
How do you add values to those around you?
“Since the beginning of time never has there been another with my mind, my heart, my eyes, my ears, my hands, my hair, my mouth. None that came before, none that live today, and none that come tomorrow can walk and talk and move and think exactly like me. All men are my brothers yet I am different from each. I am a unique creature. I am nature’s greatest miracle.”- Og Mandino
4. Look for Like-minded People
Hang around positive people. Find people who build others up instead of putting them down. Build relationships and a community to support you.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.