In what areas of your life do you have standards? Even if you aren’t aware, you have them in all areas: finances, health, relationships, work, etc. Sometimes, we are aware of our standards and other times, not.
How do you know when you have dropped one of your standards? One clue is that you get upset with yourself. You may think “I should have known better, or I knew I shouldn’t have done that”. Let’s say you are at school and you enjoy math. Your standard is to get a B or higher on each test. For one test, you drop your standard, stay up late playing video games and don’t study for the test and end up with a D. What would you probably do next time? Raise your standard back up again. When you drop your standards, notice and be aware of it, learn from it and raise them back up again.
Observe, what areas in your life have the highest standards? Are you always on top of your finances? Do you exercise regularly, eat well and take preventative measure for your health? Is it your kids and family that you invest your time in most? The areas where you have the highest standards are also areas that you deem priorities in your life.
The quality of your life is determined by the stands you set for yourself. What are you willing or not willing to accept or tolerate?
You also teach other people how to treat you by what you allow, don’t stop from happening and what you stand for. What are your standards for how others treat you? Do you speak up when something nice is not said or do you let it go?
What are your own standards for treating yourself? Are you kind to yourself? Do you make time to take care or are you the last on your list?
Examine the standards in your life and if you don’t like the levels, raise them!
Is it more important to be consistent over time or to do things with great intensity? Similar to the old fable of the tortoise and the hare, consistency wins out over the long term.
Let’s take working out for example. If you go consistently 3x/wk for a year you could develop more skills and take your time learning proper exercises versus if you went to the gym 1/month and worked out 5 hours each time you went. The body, as with life, enjoys routine and being consistent.
If you were to transfer consistency to business or work, showing up every day over long periods of time, would get you further than showing up once in awhile and working like crazy. It is often seen in the newer stages of a business that founders will work crazy hours at first until it’s not sustainable anymore and either crash, give up or close their business.
It’s not to say that at times, we won't need bursts of intensity where we may have more activities that need our attention. It’s simply not sustainable over a long period of time.
Sustainability is key! Even in change, when you want to change a habit or routine or another pathway from your nervous system to your body, you can’t simply do things once or twice. You been to be consistent and do things multiple times until they become a part of your physiology and then the habit becomes a sustainable habit. Think learning to ride a bike.
If you find yourself going crazy with your to-do lists and doing a million things at a time, ask yourself, is this sustainable? Then re-think your priorities and think long term.
We take care of our outward appearance by the clothes we wear, how we groom ourselves, exercising to look a certain way, etc. but what habits do we have to nurture us on the inside?
Task: Take a look at your weekly schedule and tasks that you do, is there time for your inner nourishment?
For myself, I found morning meditation, working out at the gym for increased energy and strength, journalling for inner reflection and visiting my chiropractor for inner balance on my weekly schedule.
If you didn’t find any, here are some suggestions to help:
We spend so much time worrying about how others perceive us that we don’t spend time on what really matters to us and that’s how we feel and think internally. Work on your inside world and it will be reflected in your outer world.
As you take more time to connect with you, you will notice your quality of life changes around you as well.
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Do you find yourself lacking in confidence sometimes while other times, you have all the confidence in the world?
How can we regain our confidence once it’s gone? The secret is to get your confidence from your previous successes.
I usually tell patients to keep a journal of their wins. The things are they asked for that came true, the times when they didn’t trust in something and it turned out ok in the end, the times they doubted themselves and their fears never came to be. They are to use their journal whenever they doubt something will happen, when they worry or lose faith.
What causes us to lose faith or confidence? When the sun doesn’t come out for a day, we don’t think that the sun will never come out again. Why is that? It’s because the sun has proven over and over, time and time again that it will eventually come back out again.
This is what we have to do to gain back our confidence. Have examples that the “sun” (our relationships, finances, health, etc) will come back out again.
To start your confidence journal, here are some questions you can ask yourself
The more success you have, the more you can build on it. When you don’t think that you can do something, look back at your journal.
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It’s easy to come up with ideas. Out there, there are millions and millions of ideas. Ideas to change the world and make it a better place, ideas to start a business, ideas to be a better person, etc. Tons of ideas, but most of them stay at that, ideas.
Why is that?
It’s because it doesn’t require that much work to come up with an idea. Ideas are free. When the work starts in turning your idea into something concrete i.e. a business, a structure, etc. It’s when the behaviours need to happen and we think of all the work that we need to do to implement our idea, that we stop.
It’s the start where most people stop.
How many times have you had the idea to go to the gym and be more active? You may have even gone to a gym and signed up for a membership...and then you never went again...except to cancel the membership. The idea of working out sounded nice, but the implementation takes work and that’s where it stopped.
What about that great business idea you came up with to make money. Perhaps you thought of writing a book or creating an online program….and then you got busy and never implemented it. A few years later, you remember your wonderful idea and wonder where you would be now, had you acted on that idea.
Next time you feel like you have a great idea, remember that if you simply start it, you are already ahead of the rest of people who don’t even try.
Over time, if you keep starting things over and over again, eventually, you will build a habit and it will become easier.
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Do you ever feel like you’re doing the same thing over and over again? Are you bored and looking to try something new?
STOP. Before you quit your job, end your relationship, buy a new house/car...ask yourself first:
Do you really need to try/buy something new or do you need to look at something old in a new way?
Often times, we give up on things too early when we get bored. We may start to think that we need a change when what we really need a change in perspective.
If you changed jobs every time you get bored, you may not stay long enough to reap the rewards that you could have had had you stayed dedicated and committed to something. Imagine changing relationships every 2 years? What would you miss?
So, how can you change your perspective?
Go back to a beginner’s mind. Remember when you first learned to drive a car, you were hyper aware of everything? You got so excited just to get into the car and were nervous turning it on and you checked every mirror 10 times before pulling out of your driveway.
How about the feelings you have when you first start a relationship? The butterflies in your stomach, excitement of meeting someone for the first time. You got excited about NOVELTY.
The beginner’s mind is about newness. See if you can look at your current job, relationships, etc in a new way. How can you create something new where you are?
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"Your days are your life in miniature. As you live your hours, so you create your years. As you live your days, so you craft your life. What you do today is actually creating your future. The words you speak, the thoughts you think, the food you eat and the actions you take are defining your destiny — shaping who you are becoming and what your life will stand for. Small choices lead to giant consequences over time. There’s no such thing as an unimportant day.” - Robin Sharma
Every month, I take time to reflect back on the previous month and check in with my yearly goals. This allows me to see what I’ve accomplished throughout the year and what I have left to do next year.
Some of the questions I ask myself are:
After I complete these questions, I take a look at different areas of my life and decide where I want to focus on.
Here are a few areas:
Once I have my focus, I break them down into weekly goals and sometimes daily goals.
So, what were your goals for 2017? How are you monitoring them? How will you make this year epic and unforgettable?
Back in October, I attended a business strategy seminar to help me to start planning my next year. As most of you know, I’m often at continuing education seminars to improve my neuro chiropractic skills and take various courses for personal development and growth. The intent of this seminar was to work on my business and instead, we worked on life.
Here are 5 lessons I learned that apply to business, life and health.
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I love my craft and the people I am privileged to work with each and every day.
Each morning that I wake up, I have amazing opportunities. I get to connect with people. Not about the little things in life but the big things that make up life.
At work, I belong to a community of encouraging people. We hold space for others to heal and grow. When I meet a new patient, I get to really know them. Not just their pain but them. What makes them who they are. My craft is in helping others. What a wonderful gift!
I have not always thought this way about my work. I used to see it as paperwork, doing workshops which terrified me and meeting people without knowing what to say to them. So what changed? I shifted from doing a job to working a craft.
Robin Sharma once said “A job is only just a job if you choose to see it as a job. - Why would you lose the opportunity to leverage what you do every day? To grow your happiness? To grow your energy? To allow you to release more of your talents to the world? To allow you to help more people? Why would you miss that opportunity by falling into the trap of thinking, “This is just my job. I’m just getting up in the morning, working 9 to 5, going down to the coal mine every day.”?”
You have a choice as to how you decide to view your work each day. Choose to see it as just a means to an end and you will create just that. Choose to see it as a gift or opportunity to practice a craft and that is what will appear.
So, how will you choose today?
To my dear practice members,
Thank you for another wonderful year. It has been an honour and privilege to work with you throughout the year.
Each year, I reflect back and take account for what went well and what I can do better. For the process that I go through, please come to our New Year, New You workshop on Monday, Jan 16 at 6:15pm.
Here is a list of what I have learned this year.
My wish for you in 2017: “Smiles when sadness intrudes, comfort on difficult days, rainbows to follow the clouds, sunsets to warm your heart, laughter to kiss your lips, hugs when spirits sag, friendships to brighten your being, beauty for your eyes to see, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, love to complete your life.”
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.