As usual, life is teaching me lots of lessons. These past few weeks, one of my lessons has been to learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
It has often been said that growth occurs outside of our comfort zone. So, if you want to grow, you have a couple options....
1. You can take an active approach, figure out your fears, and start tackling them one by one. This is the brave and courageous approach.
2. You can wait for life to throw circumstances in your way where you are forced to grow (most of us). This is what happened to me.
3. Resist the growth and fight tooth and nail against it whenever you are called to make a change. This method is popular as well.
As I’m nearing my due date for the baby, life is getting more and more uncomfortable. It’s harder to walk long distances, go upstairs and do the things that I usually do. This has been a blessing and a curse for me. I’m used to running around and moving quickly through the day. I’ve been forced to slow down and in doing so, enjoy the process of taking my time to get places.
It’s been hard to sleep at night because there are just no more comfortable positions. This has taught me the gift of time relativity. The paradox being that at night, when you’re awake, the hours seem to pass by so very slowly. If you do fall asleep at your regular time, 5am comes too quickly. It's funny because both "times" are the same but what you are doing with the time differs and that gives the illusion of time being different. This has taught me to appreciate the illusion of time.
The more I get comfortable with things that are uncomfortable the more I’m learning about myself and about life.
This week, do something outside your comfort zone and tell us below what you discover about yourself.
We take care of our outward appearance by the clothes we wear, how we groom ourselves, exercising to look a certain way, etc. but what habits do we have to nurture us on the inside?
Task: Take a look at your weekly schedule and tasks that you do, is there time for your inner nourishment?
For myself, I found morning meditation, working out at the gym for increased energy and strength, journalling for inner reflection and visiting my chiropractor for inner balance on my weekly schedule.
If you didn’t find any, here are some suggestions to help:
We spend so much time worrying about how others perceive us that we don’t spend time on what really matters to us and that’s how we feel and think internally. Work on your inside world and it will be reflected in your outer world.
As you take more time to connect with you, you will notice your quality of life changes around you as well.
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Do you find yourself lacking in confidence sometimes while other times, you have all the confidence in the world?
How can we regain our confidence once it’s gone? The secret is to get your confidence from your previous successes.
I usually tell patients to keep a journal of their wins. The things are they asked for that came true, the times when they didn’t trust in something and it turned out ok in the end, the times they doubted themselves and their fears never came to be. They are to use their journal whenever they doubt something will happen, when they worry or lose faith.
What causes us to lose faith or confidence? When the sun doesn’t come out for a day, we don’t think that the sun will never come out again. Why is that? It’s because the sun has proven over and over, time and time again that it will eventually come back out again.
This is what we have to do to gain back our confidence. Have examples that the “sun” (our relationships, finances, health, etc) will come back out again.
To start your confidence journal, here are some questions you can ask yourself
The more success you have, the more you can build on it. When you don’t think that you can do something, look back at your journal.
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As I’m going through this pregnancy, I’m discovering so many things about myself. It’s been a great opportunity to practice some life lessons.
This week, the lesson has been to choose between fear or progress.
When we are in a state of fear, we are scared that we are going to lose something. In the case of pregnancy, most people are aware at some point about the possibility of a miscarriage, especially during the first trimester. After that, there can be a myriad of things and tests that can be on your mind. If you choose to go down the road of fear, one can be in for a long 9 months. Other fears could include, losing the life that you currently have as things will change with a child.
When we are fearful, or scared we want safety and comfort. This means that our thoughts and choices that we make will be made of that as well. For example, if you had a fear of gaining weight, you may make a different decision on eating a cake or dessert, you may exercise extra or take other precautions. During pregnancy, it could mean excess worry, cutting back on activities that you would normally do, just in case. Note that in pregnancy, you may stop doing things out of fear as opposed to being told what to stop by your healthcare provider.
So, what is another choice? You can choose progress and growth.
When we want to grow, we feel more connected in our lives, give our gifts and contribute. While it will be important to be aware of the possible events that can occur, it is not possible to prevent all of them from occurring. So, what’s left instead? Trust.
Trust that your body has been programmed with the wisdom of all the ages. Trust that your body has the ability to do what it needs to and at the right moment. Trust that there is always an opportunity to learn a life lessons, no matter how painful.
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Why is it so important to take the time to examine your thoughts and where they come from? It’s because your thoughts and beliefs trigger the power for you to take action in your life.
If your thoughts and beliefs are old and no longer serve you, those actions that you take because of them will also not be right for you.
Imagine that when you were a child, someone told you that you were bad at taking tests and that you believed them. What actions would come from that thought? Perhaps you would say, I’m not even going to study, what’s the point? I’m going to fail anyways. Or, why even try? How would this one simple thought that you believed affect the rest of your life if you continue to believe it?
Now, instead of believing a negative thought, what if you believed in a powerful one? What if you were taught that you could do anything that you put your mind to? What would happen every time a challenge came up for you?
It is extremely important to be aware of our words because we don’t know how it could affect someone else in their lifetime. This is especially true for children who develop their sense of self, right or wrong and belief systems from those around them.
Take time to examine your belief and thoughts and observe the actions that flow from them. Don’t like the actions you are taking or not taking? Change the belief system through your body from your nervous system.
It’s easy to come up with ideas. Out there, there are millions and millions of ideas. Ideas to change the world and make it a better place, ideas to start a business, ideas to be a better person, etc. Tons of ideas, but most of them stay at that, ideas.
Why is that?
It’s because it doesn’t require that much work to come up with an idea. Ideas are free. When the work starts in turning your idea into something concrete i.e. a business, a structure, etc. It’s when the behaviours need to happen and we think of all the work that we need to do to implement our idea, that we stop.
It’s the start where most people stop.
How many times have you had the idea to go to the gym and be more active? You may have even gone to a gym and signed up for a membership...and then you never went again...except to cancel the membership. The idea of working out sounded nice, but the implementation takes work and that’s where it stopped.
What about that great business idea you came up with to make money. Perhaps you thought of writing a book or creating an online program….and then you got busy and never implemented it. A few years later, you remember your wonderful idea and wonder where you would be now, had you acted on that idea.
Next time you feel like you have a great idea, remember that if you simply start it, you are already ahead of the rest of people who don’t even try.
Over time, if you keep starting things over and over again, eventually, you will build a habit and it will become easier.
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There is always something to fear, so what do you do when you fear?
Fear also has 2 acronyms: Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise
As most of you know, we’re expecting our first child very soon and with that, comes lots of unknowns and sometimes fears. So, how do you deal with fear?
This is the series of fears that I thought about surrounding birth. At first, there was worry surrounding getting pregnant, then once pregnancy was confirmed, there’s worry around having a miscarriage. After the first trimester when the incidence of miscarriage decreases, you move into your second trimester and you are told to be on the lookout for preterm labour. When you make it through that and to term, you worry about the baby coming late. Then there’s the actual birth process and then everything that comes with having a newborn that you are now responsible for.
Imagine you followed this thought train for the rest of your life. How many fears would you have feared that did not happen? Most of them! You would have wasted so much time worrying about the things that never happened. Also, whenever life throws you something unexpected, all you can do is to adapt and find a way.
Now, if I had decided to think about all these fears on a regular basis, what would the baby inside of me absorb? All those fears. That is a process of how parents pass along some of their fears to their children even before they are born.
We also carry with us, the fears from multiple generations through the thoughts and DNA that is passed down. Scary! There is a solution to this!
You resolve the fear for you and you resolve it for the generations that came before you and those to come after you as well.
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As the baby items started collecting in our house, we needed to make more room. The best way I found was to clean and purge. As I started in 1 room of the house and donated items to neighbours and the Salvation Army, I noticed that my mind felt freer and freer. If I felt this good after 1 area, what would happen if I decluttered the entire house?
I also learned what emotional attachments I have to material things. I kept old clothes and belongings that had sentimental value. When I let go of some of these objects, I started to gain more and more energy. Soon, my nervous system learned that it was fun to give things away, especially if someone else really needed and could use them.
In my neighbourhood, we have a group where we can post things that we don’t need anymore and a neighbour can request what we post. It makes everyone feel better and grows our community closer together.
Having trouble letting go of material items? Here are some tips to declutter your life:
Start decluttering today and leave me a post below on how it went!
In our current healthcare system, the idea is to restore ourselves to the way we were before an event happened to us. For example, if you had shoulder pain, back pain, cancer, diabetes, etc you seek help from a professional to get rid of our pain or condition and return you back to the way you were.
The current healthcare system works well in cases where your life is in jeopardy and in cases where you need help in reducing pain and suffering. When you need something removed immediately, this is the way to go.
There is also another way to look at healing.
The challenge with this current system is that you lose the ability to find meaning from your pain. You have difficulty growing through the the symptom of pain.
Re-organizational healing (ROH) is more than treating just the symptom or pain. ROH assumes that pain and diseases are not mistakes. Instead, pain and disease are here to alert us that something in our current life needs to change.
Pain tells you about your body and your life. It tells you to stop, pay attention and do something different. Stop something that you are doing physically, emotionally or mentally. Pay attention to yourself and your life and then make a change.
For example, let’s say someone has Lyme Disease. Restorative therapies could include antibiotics, herbal remedies and supplements. ROH looks at the person’s life. The body is part of their life and so are their emotions, thoughts, perceptions, behaviours, relationships, family, culture that they are in, stories about their experiences and also spiritual qualities.
In ROH, the assumption is that we are not looking back into the past. We don’t want to go back. We want to look forward and create a new version or upgrade in order to adapt to the times. We need to move to another level.
When we are fearful, or scared that we are going to lose something, we want safety and comfort and will most often choose restorative therapies.
When we want to grow, feel more connected in our lives, give our gifts and contribute, we chose ROH.
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Life is made up of a series of moments. If you miss the moments, you will miss your life.
While we may not consciously remember every moment of each and every day of our lives, there are some moments that stand out that we will never forget.
A defining moment is a moment in time that creates and defines a change within you. It’s a moment where you consciously decide something about who you are and what you represent. It’s when you make a statement to the universe that this is or is not you.
Some such moments could be a time that you stood up for yourself. In that moment, you made a statement that you would no longer tolerate the treatment that you have received and that something needs to change. You decided that you and your feelings matter and that you deserved to be heard.
Another moment could be the moment you decide that you are a survivor and not a victim. You are going to fight whatever health challenge that comes your way and that you are not going to be a victim to your circumstance. In that moment, you decided to choose courage.
The moments don’t have to be something big either. It could be a moment when you were in a rush to do something and instead, you chose to take care of the needs of a human in front of you. You decided that that person was more important to you than a thing.
In every moment, we are making decisions about who we are and what we stand for. Make a list of 5 moments that changed your life and who you were in an instant. If you feel like sharing, please do so below.
“Your days are your life in miniature. As you live your hours, so you create your years. As you live your days, so you craft your life. What you do today is actually creating your future. The words you speak, the thoughts you think, the food you eat and the actions you take are defining your destiny- shaping who you are becoming and what your life will stand for. Small choices lead to giant consequences- over time. There's no such thing as an unimportant day.” -Robin Sharma
Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.