"Everyone gives what he has. The warrior gives strength, the merchant gives merchandise, the teacher teachings, the farmer rice, the fisher fish."
"Yes indeed. And what is it now what you've got to give? What is it that you've learned, what are you able to do?"
"I can think. I can wait. I can fast."
"I believe, that's everything!"
"And what's the use of that? For example, the fasting-- what is it good for?"
“"It is very good, sir. When a person has nothing to eat, fasting is the smartest thing he could do. When, for example, Siddhartha hadn't learned to fast, he would have to accept any kind of service before this day is up, whether it may be with you or wherever, because hunger would
force him to do so. But like this, Siddhartha can wait calmly, he knows no impatience, he knows no emergency, for a long time he can allow hunger to besiege him and can laugh about it. This, sir, is what fasting is good for."
So, what is it that you have to give? What abilities do you possess that others can learn from?
One of my qualities is that I am dedicated. I wake up 5x a week and go to the gym. I’ve been doing this for years and years. This dedication has allowed me to keep my body fit and strong.
I am dedicated to my meditation for which I’ve been practicing for years. This has allowed me to have moments of peace in my mind.
I am dedicated to learning and to my practice. This has allowed me to continuously learn and also give my best to my patients.
Write a list of 5 of your best qualities and see what you have learned through them. If you have trouble, you can ask me for some or people who know you well.
This blog was written a few months ago and I've come to appreciate it even more....
I have been in quite some pain for the past 2 days. I had been fighting a cough and 2 nights ago, I was lying in bed and I coughed and felt a pop in one of my ribs and then intense stabbing pain. My first instinct was to scream and wake up my husband to take me to the hospital. For those that know me, I don't take going to the hospital lightly. It was 3am. I then gave myself a few minutes of lying there to assess the damage before I decided to do anything else. Talk about life deciding to stop me in my tracks.
Once the initial pain started to subside, and now that I was awake, I got to thinking how this could happen. I am 8 months pregnant which means my body is releasing lots of relaxin to get my body ready for childbirth. This causes loose muscle and ligaments, making you more susceptible to injury. That was on the scientific level. On the emotional and mental side, I knew it was my body’s way of slowing me down and getting me to take a break.
Lying down was the worst position for me so I walked around which helped, meditated propped up on pillows and even had time to journal. By then, I had already decided to clear my day and focus on rest and healing.
The next day, I was able to call a friend and doctor to further assess my ribs for a home visit. I am so grateful that they were able to come. I felt better after her visit but was still in intense pain each time I coughed.
I managed to get a nap in, not cook or do the other million things I would normally do but just rest. I talked to friends on the phone and enjoyed a visit from my friend and rested the entire day.
When I went into work the next day, I was able to get taped up by the physiotherapist and use other modalities available for healing at the office. Once again, so much gratitude to have the tools I need to speed up the recovery process.
Even in the midst of pain, there are opportunities for gratitude.
You are unique. There is no one in the world who has had the same set of circumstances as you. Even twins don’t have the same life experiences as each other. If we are all unique, why do we spend so much time trying to fit in?
Fitting in is engrained into our DNA. If we go back to hunter gatherer times, in order to hunt for food and survive, we would have to work in groups. Alone, you would not be able to chase down and kill your food, nor look after your family, cook, gather nuts and seeds, etc.
If you were someone who got kicked out of your group, you would not make it alone on your own. Since those hunter gatherer times, we’ve been learning these lessons of trying to please others who are in charge and to do what others day in order to survive.
The challenge is that we’ve given up our individual uniqueness in order to survive and fit in. So how do we reconcile our uniqueness and at the same time, being able to contribute and be a part of a community?
The answer lies in your goals. Are you looking for surviving or to thrive in life? Actions that are required for instances of survival are different than in thriving.
Let’s take medicine for example. Let’s say you needed life saving open heart surgery, the surgeons would not hesitate to crack open your chest and ribs in order to save you. The actions would be more extreme than usual. This would be to save your life.
In survival, fear in involved. Fear of losing something or not having something. This would cause you to do different actions vs in thriving mode. In thriving, we are searching for more. To be more, do more, to explore more about ourselves.
Once you have your basic elements for survival, i.e. food, a place to live, etc. You can start to explore of your uniqueness and what it takes to thrive.
There is room for both survival and growth. We need to adapt to what is needed for the time.
There are many books in the personal development space that talk about the habits of successful people i.e. the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People. They follow and find out the habits that make successful people who they are and it is said that if we do those same habits, we would get the same results in our lives. While there is some truth to this, there is a key element missing…..
We don’t want simply the habits that successful people have, we want to know and emulate the THINKING behind the actions that they take.
If a successful habit is to wake up early in the morning, why is it that they think that? What is the thought process behind that? We want to then examine what their thought patterns are versus our own and find out the gap.
If you think like a successful person, then you will create your own habits that suit you to lead you to the results that you want. For instance, if a successful person was productive waking up early so they would meditate, workout etc. when it was quiet. You still also apply that success principle if you are a night person and stay up late to do those things. We want to know the why behind the doing.
A good question to ask yourself is: How does this successful person think vs how do I think? What is the thought behind their action? What is the thought behind mine?
Analyzing your own thought patterns will allow your to discover which actions you take that are congruent with who you are. People can only see your actions, they cannot see your thinking.
If you’re at the grocery store and trying to portray a picture of health, what would your grocery cart look like? Make sure that you are congruent in your thoughts and behaviours.
Change your thoughts and you change your life!
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As usual, life is teaching me lots of lessons. These past few weeks, one of my lessons has been to learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
It has often been said that growth occurs outside of our comfort zone. So, if you want to grow, you have a couple options....
1. You can take an active approach, figure out your fears, and start tackling them one by one. This is the brave and courageous approach.
2. You can wait for life to throw circumstances in your way where you are forced to grow (most of us). This is what happened to me.
3. Resist the growth and fight tooth and nail against it whenever you are called to make a change. This method is popular as well.
As I’m nearing my due date for the baby, life is getting more and more uncomfortable. It’s harder to walk long distances, go upstairs and do the things that I usually do. This has been a blessing and a curse for me. I’m used to running around and moving quickly through the day. I’ve been forced to slow down and in doing so, enjoy the process of taking my time to get places.
It’s been hard to sleep at night because there are just no more comfortable positions. This has taught me the gift of time relativity. The paradox being that at night, when you’re awake, the hours seem to pass by so very slowly. If you do fall asleep at your regular time, 5am comes too quickly. It's funny because both "times" are the same but what you are doing with the time differs and that gives the illusion of time being different. This has taught me to appreciate the illusion of time.
The more I get comfortable with things that are uncomfortable the more I’m learning about myself and about life.
This week, do something outside your comfort zone and tell us below what you discover about yourself.
We take care of our outward appearance by the clothes we wear, how we groom ourselves, exercising to look a certain way, etc. but what habits do we have to nurture us on the inside?
Task: Take a look at your weekly schedule and tasks that you do, is there time for your inner nourishment?
For myself, I found morning meditation, working out at the gym for increased energy and strength, journalling for inner reflection and visiting my chiropractor for inner balance on my weekly schedule.
If you didn’t find any, here are some suggestions to help:
We spend so much time worrying about how others perceive us that we don’t spend time on what really matters to us and that’s how we feel and think internally. Work on your inside world and it will be reflected in your outer world.
As you take more time to connect with you, you will notice your quality of life changes around you as well.
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Do you find yourself lacking in confidence sometimes while other times, you have all the confidence in the world?
How can we regain our confidence once it’s gone? The secret is to get your confidence from your previous successes.
I usually tell patients to keep a journal of their wins. The things are they asked for that came true, the times when they didn’t trust in something and it turned out ok in the end, the times they doubted themselves and their fears never came to be. They are to use their journal whenever they doubt something will happen, when they worry or lose faith.
What causes us to lose faith or confidence? When the sun doesn’t come out for a day, we don’t think that the sun will never come out again. Why is that? It’s because the sun has proven over and over, time and time again that it will eventually come back out again.
This is what we have to do to gain back our confidence. Have examples that the “sun” (our relationships, finances, health, etc) will come back out again.
To start your confidence journal, here are some questions you can ask yourself
The more success you have, the more you can build on it. When you don’t think that you can do something, look back at your journal.
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As I’m going through this pregnancy, I’m discovering so many things about myself. It’s been a great opportunity to practice some life lessons.
This week, the lesson has been to choose between fear or progress.
When we are in a state of fear, we are scared that we are going to lose something. In the case of pregnancy, most people are aware at some point about the possibility of a miscarriage, especially during the first trimester. After that, there can be a myriad of things and tests that can be on your mind. If you choose to go down the road of fear, one can be in for a long 9 months. Other fears could include, losing the life that you currently have as things will change with a child.
When we are fearful, or scared we want safety and comfort. This means that our thoughts and choices that we make will be made of that as well. For example, if you had a fear of gaining weight, you may make a different decision on eating a cake or dessert, you may exercise extra or take other precautions. During pregnancy, it could mean excess worry, cutting back on activities that you would normally do, just in case. Note that in pregnancy, you may stop doing things out of fear as opposed to being told what to stop by your healthcare provider.
So, what is another choice? You can choose progress and growth.
When we want to grow, we feel more connected in our lives, give our gifts and contribute. While it will be important to be aware of the possible events that can occur, it is not possible to prevent all of them from occurring. So, what’s left instead? Trust.
Trust that your body has been programmed with the wisdom of all the ages. Trust that your body has the ability to do what it needs to and at the right moment. Trust that there is always an opportunity to learn a life lessons, no matter how painful.
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Why is it so important to take the time to examine your thoughts and where they come from? It’s because your thoughts and beliefs trigger the power for you to take action in your life.
If your thoughts and beliefs are old and no longer serve you, those actions that you take because of them will also not be right for you.
Imagine that when you were a child, someone told you that you were bad at taking tests and that you believed them. What actions would come from that thought? Perhaps you would say, I’m not even going to study, what’s the point? I’m going to fail anyways. Or, why even try? How would this one simple thought that you believed affect the rest of your life if you continue to believe it?
Now, instead of believing a negative thought, what if you believed in a powerful one? What if you were taught that you could do anything that you put your mind to? What would happen every time a challenge came up for you?
It is extremely important to be aware of our words because we don’t know how it could affect someone else in their lifetime. This is especially true for children who develop their sense of self, right or wrong and belief systems from those around them.
Take time to examine your belief and thoughts and observe the actions that flow from them. Don’t like the actions you are taking or not taking? Change the belief system through your body from your nervous system.
It’s easy to come up with ideas. Out there, there are millions and millions of ideas. Ideas to change the world and make it a better place, ideas to start a business, ideas to be a better person, etc. Tons of ideas, but most of them stay at that, ideas.
Why is that?
It’s because it doesn’t require that much work to come up with an idea. Ideas are free. When the work starts in turning your idea into something concrete i.e. a business, a structure, etc. It’s when the behaviours need to happen and we think of all the work that we need to do to implement our idea, that we stop.
It’s the start where most people stop.
How many times have you had the idea to go to the gym and be more active? You may have even gone to a gym and signed up for a membership...and then you never went again...except to cancel the membership. The idea of working out sounded nice, but the implementation takes work and that’s where it stopped.
What about that great business idea you came up with to make money. Perhaps you thought of writing a book or creating an online program….and then you got busy and never implemented it. A few years later, you remember your wonderful idea and wonder where you would be now, had you acted on that idea.
Next time you feel like you have a great idea, remember that if you simply start it, you are already ahead of the rest of people who don’t even try.
Over time, if you keep starting things over and over again, eventually, you will build a habit and it will become easier.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.