Alice: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
Cheshire cat: “That depends a good deal on where you want to go to,”
Alice: “I don’t much care where-”
Cheshire cat: “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go”
“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there” - Lewis Carroll
Similar to not knowing where you want to go, if you don’t know who you are, others will dictate it for you.
Some people have strong personalities and are sure of themselves. This good news with this is that they tend to set their own rules and not let others tell them what to do. They tend to get their way in most instances.
Others, are more flexible in their personalities. The good news is that they are more agreeable. The downfall is that they will go along with what everyone else wants. They are also people pleasers and may even give up what they want in order to please someone else, keep the peace or out of obligation or guilt.
When you go along with everyone else at the expense of who you are, you give up your identity. You allow others to steal your identity and your power.
Think of which situations where you allow this to happen. Do you give up power in your relationships? Finances; by ignoring them or allowing someone else to manage them? How about your health? Do you let someone else decide your health decision for you or do you gather information first and them make an informed decision?
When you give up who you are over long periods of time, you can start to get resentful towards others or angry.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.