Sometimes we aren’t aware of our patterns until someone points them out to us. One way for me to find out my patterns at home was to invite guests over to stay for a few days….
When we had guests over, I was able to observe how they functioned with their routines and contrast them with mine. None of our patterns were right or wrong, I only found the information useful to examine myself closer.
For example, my friends were nighthawks and tended to stay up late, whereas I am a morning person and am up with my kids at 5am. This means that my kids have early bedtimes, routines and meals times. This was in contrast to my friends who went to bed later and then woke up and got to their day later.
I discovered that I had many rules or patterns that were on automatic and some of them I wanted to change. For instance, when I am cooking, I go into automatic mode and just make our meal. When my guests wanted to make a meal for us, they included my toddler in the cooking. They gave him tasks like breaking apart the bok choy into pieces and washing vegetables and my son loved to do this. It opened up my eyes to get him even more involved in the kitchen with me.
I was able to observe patterns around the house and how I felt when pots and pans got misplaced, what we allowed our children to do, etc. I wasn’t even aware that I had so many rules.
Take a look at your home and see what rules you have. This is a good way to ask yourself why you are the way you are.
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Exciting news! We are starting a new support group for people affected by Lyme and chronic illness! Come join us for our first meeting on Monday, November 18 at 6:30pm. Our first guest speaker will be Dr. Marie Matheson who is a Lyme and Chronic Illness specialist. Please RSVP as seating is limited.
Lyme Disease and Chronic Illness - Invisible. Debilitating. Defeatable. YES!
Unfortunately due to the often invisible nature of many chronic illnesses and even more specifically with Lyme disease, it is common for others to not understand the debilitating and life-altering symptoms someone is experiencing and going through. Sometimes, people living with Lyme even encounter opposition, resistance and disbelief from others. Knowing that what you are experiencing is real, you are not alone, and that there are people who can offer caring support and options can bring much needed hope and motivation during the often challenging and bumpy road of healing from illness.
We understand this, and that is why we decided to set up a special kind of Lyme Support Group that’s inclusive of those suffering from chronic viral, bacterial, parasitic infections and mold illness too. It is intended to be a place where you can find others who are on a similar journey willing to openly discuss encouraging, constructive, practical, useful, beneficial, optimistic, cutting-edge and forward-looking options, suggestions, tools and resources.
If this sounds like something you would like to participate in, our first meeting is scheduled for Monday, Nov 18, 2019 at 6:30pm.
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10 spaces are available. Priority will be given to patients of our office and their guests.
Is someone treating you in a way that you don’t like? Have you worked hard to change a behaviour about yourself only to have others still treat you like the person you were before?
How do you get someone to treat you differently? You need to teach them how to do it. This is because, we teach others how to treat us.
My baby girl is a perfect example. She has us well trained. We were very lucky that she took to nursing extremely well. However, when it was time for me to go back to work, she refused to drink from a bottle. We didn’t have a problem with bottling drinking from our first child, so this was new territory for us.
We tried everything we could think of. We used different bottles, different nipples types, different flows, changed the people that were feeding her, changed the places she was being fed but she still refused. Finally, we started feeding her with a spoon and although she wasn’t thrilled about it, she would at least drink enough milk to keep her full until I returned from work. She trained us how to feed her! Side note, she did finally figure out how to take a bottle after a couple months of trying.
So, if someone is consistently speaking to you in a certain tone or in a way that you don’t like....than
take a look at how they see you and how you taught them. Perhaps you let them get away with certain language the first time you met them and never told them that you didn’t like it. Maybe you let behaviours slide repeatedly so they know they could get away with more around you. Whatever the case, examine the role that you play to train others.
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Have you ever had the dream of wanting to be a rock star or wanting to be someone famous? While this is not a dream of mine, it was further cemented in an interaction with my son.
As soon as my son wakes up in the morning, the first thing I hear is the sounds of mama, mama, coming out of his room. He repeats his "song" over and over again until I arrive n his room. I love the sound of mama, however there are times where it can get tiring :)
There are times where I can’t go to the bathroom without seeing tiny fingers under the door asking for me or having little people barge into the bathroom. There have even been a couple times where I’ve had a little one on my lap while trying to go to the bathroom. It was one of those times where I had the thought that I don’t ever want to be a famous rock star.
How do famous people handle people following them everywhere? What if I had hundreds of thousands of people yelling Mama?
Nope. Not for me. Before you really want something in life, remember to make sure that it’s something you really want. Find out why you really want it.
Do you want to be married, have kids? Buy a new house or car? Go on vacation? Ask yourself why. is it because other people have these things and you want to be like everyone else? Are you unhappy and searching for happiness and you think having these things will get you there? Are you bored and just looking for a change?
Think about why you want what you want.
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There are so many skills to be learned in life. One skill (yes, it is a skill) that we don’t focus on enough is the skill of ‘figuring it out’.
Have you noticed some people seem to be able to figure out how to do things on their own. Some say it comes naturally, but in reality, they have just had practice with the skill.
The skill can be taught early on in life. Last week, my son was trying to figure out how to turn on the faucet. He was turning it from side to side and it wouldn’t work (you need to lift it). My partner was watching and was going to lift it for him when I said, no, let him figure it out. So, we watched and let him play with it, until he finally figured it out and then we cheered him on. He was so proud when he got it.
I’m not advocating for letting people fall off a cliff to learn something but they can fall on the grass.
How can you train this skill for yourself?
Have fun figuring things out and enjoy the feeling of a eureka moment!
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For the most part, our body’s are self-regulating. This means that when we cut ourselves, we heal. Our heart, lungs and organs function without us having to think about them.
Inflammation is a part of our body’s healing response. However, when our body receives distorted signals, it can no longer respond in an appropriate manner and we have difficulties healing.
In order for our bodies to regain the proper signals, we need to resolve the distortion signals.
So, what causes distortion patterns in our body?
When someone comes in to see us, we first do a new patient visit. This is to find the distortion patterns that are present in the body. They could be physical, emotional or mental tension patterns. We want to find out what is keeping the body from self-regulating. Once detected, Neuro-optimization works to unwind the distortion patterns in the body, and restore the body’s self-regulation ability.
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It’s that time of year again where the kids are going back to school, activities are starting again, and the long, warm days of summer are changing over into the fall.
There’s a certain energy and buzz in the air. This is the energy of fall.
There is a timing to each season. A time to plant seeds, a time to harvest and a time to hibernate. Each season comes with a different energy and activities that go along with it. When you use your energy and are congruent with the energy of the season, you can create and take massive actions to change your life.
So what are some of the actions of fall? If you’ve ever gone to school, it’s the start of a new year. Your nervous system is programmed to start something new. Why not take advantage and try something new in life. Start a new workout program, change the way you eat, learn a new language, etc.
As the weather changes and gets colder, our bodies change at the same time. We start to wear warmer clothes and the heat starts to come on. Why not start internally warming up your body with more comforting foods like stews and soups. Have a cup of ginger tea.
Fall is a time for harvesting. Are there any areas of your life that you’ve been growing and it’s time to harvest what you’ve grown? Do you have a veggie garden that is giving your a lot of food? Have you been working hard on a project and are new seeing the fruits of your labour? Can you plan a new project so that next fall, you are seeing the benefits of the season?
Use the energy of fall to help propel your life to the next level. Need help? Give us a call 613-446-6060
Have you ever noticed that when you are under a lot of stress, you are more susceptible to illness? I remember when I was going through school that after an intense period of exams were over, I would often get sick with a cold.
Now, it shouldn’t be a surprise to you that stress negatively affects your health. That is why people are often told to decrease the stress in their lives. But what is the mechanism of how this works?
It turns out that stress negatively influences the body’s immune system response. This then leads to a decreased ability for your body to modulate inflammation and illness occurs.
A research team led by Carnegie Mellon University's Sheldon Cohen has found that chronic psychological stress is associated with the body losing its ability to regulate the inflammatory response.
Cohen argued that prolonged stress alters the effectiveness of cortisol to regulate the inflammatory response because it decreases tissue sensitivity to the hormone. Specifically, immune cells become insensitive to cortisol's regulatory effect. In turn, runaway inflammation is thought to promote the development and progression of many diseases.
Our body’s are for the most part self-regulating. This means that when we cut ourselves, we heal. Our heart, lungs, organs keep working without us having to think about them. Inflammation is also part of our body’s healing response. However, when our body receives distorted signals, it can no longer respond in an appropriate manner.
In order for our bodies to regain the proper signals, we need to resolve the abnormal signals. Tune in next week to find out what causes these abnormal signals in our body.
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Last week I was watching my son play with his toy cars on a coffee table. He dropped one of his cars and it fell under the table and out of his reach. He tried to get it but his arms were not long enough and he started to cry. I then told him to “go around” and then you can get your car as the toy was easier to reach from the other side of the table.
I went back to cooking and looked up again when I heard more crying. He was crouched down in the same place he was before and still trying to reach his toy. I then said, I thought I told you to go around to get your toy...so he walks around the entire table right back to the exact same spot where he started! He had just gone around in a circle...poor kid.
I smiled and took his hand and we walked to the other side of the table and got his toy.
This was a reminder of how easy it is to be misunderstood.
We experience events in our lives from our point of view. Even if someone says the same thing to 2 people, they can take it to mean very different things. Before you get in an argument with someone over something that was said, remember to clarify what you meant.
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I’ve heard the saying often and even experienced it myself on several occasions: you don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone. Because I know this to be true, I want to make sure that I’m enjoying life’s daily moments. Sometimes, when you find yourself in the middle of a project or a journey, it's hard to stop and appreciate where you are now when you feel you have so much more to go.
So, how do you make sure you are enjoying life’s moments?
For me, when I’m writing in my journal, I make sure to note 3 specials moments in my day. They could be moments about my family, friends, nature, work, someone I helped, etc. Anything that I take note of on a day.
For today, my focus was on my family. My special moment with my daughter was when she had her little fingers wrapped around one of my hands while I was nursing her. My son’s moment was when we were walking home from the park and he was holding hands with my husband and I. For my hubby, our special moment was meditating together.
We often live our life thinking that things will be better when….when the kids are older, when I’m married, when I retire, when I get a raise, when I have more money, when I have more time, etc etc. Appreciate life’s perfect moments in the day and you won’t be living for a future life.
Find out what’s important to you: your family, friends, making a difference, your purpose...and find ways to appreciate them before they are gone. One day, we will all be gone.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization in Ottawa, Canada.