What is your self worth attached to?

Is your worth tied to your roles in life?  Perhaps you pride yourself on being a lawyer, doctor or engineer.  Maybe it’s tied to being a mother or father, sibling, child, spouse, etc.  Make a list of the different roles you play on a weekly basis.  Boss, employee, etc.  Be aware of how much energy it takes to play these roles.

Next, ask yourself, what personality traits or characteristics are you attached to.  Are you the nice one, smart one, funny one or the responsible one?  Make a list of the labels you place on yourself and see how much energy it takes to be you.  

Are you a people pleaser or a perfectionist?  Do you seek validation through others?  When you change who you are to fit in or to please someone else, it creates tension in your spine.  Tension is created in you when you are not being true to who you really are.  Illness occurs because you are not being who you are.  

When you allow others to give you validation, you are also trying to control them in some way.    You will cater to their needs and do what you think they would like, say what you think they want to hear and over time, lose who you are.

Being you is unique.  There is no other like you in experiences, feelings, talents and contributions to the world.  When you are pretending to be someone else, there's a stress and fear that you will eventually be  found out.  Keeping up this role requires lots of energy.  

The bottom line to self worth is to remember who you are.    If you have trouble remembering, call us for a free consultation.