Why is it that we have such a hard time letting go of things? Whether it’s an old friendship, a relationship that no longer works, a pair of old jeans that you haven’t worn since high school, a business that is failing, etc. We have a hard time letting go because we have attached a part of our identity to that which we are letting go of.
Our identity is made up of our personality, our life experiences, the people we interact with, etc. Some parts of our identity we are aware of and others, we are not. If you’ve attached a part of you to something, it’s hard to let yourself go.
So, what can you do. Examine why you are having trouble letting go. Take a pair of old shoes for instance with holes in them that you don’t wear anymore. Ask yourself what part of you is in your shoes. Is it the pair of shoes that you wore to win a big game? Did you spend an entire summer playing in them and having fun? Perhaps you have attached winning, play and fun to your shoes….no wonder why you don’t want to get rid of them!
Once you are aware of your attachments, you can remember the good times or the emotions and then let the physical item go.
Practice going around your house and looking at items that you never use anymore. This works especially well for clothes. See why you still have them, remember the good memories and then get rid of your new item. Observe how you feel. You will notice that as you remove old things from your life, you will feel lighter and more free.
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After the initial stage of care, we begin to move into a stretch. This is not simply a physical stretch that you do like when you are doing your daily exercises, although the physical stretch does play a role.
I’m often asked why we don’t start off the initial stage of care with a stretch. The reason being, when most people come into the office, their body is experiencing a lot of tension; physically, emotionally and mentally. If we stretch the tissues of the body that already have tension placed on them, what would happen? Similar to stretching the strings of a guitar past their tension point, they would snap and injury could occur. Stretching is initialised later on in care, after the nervous system has a chance to calm down and the body is no longer under high tension.
Physically, the stretch reduces tension in our body, builds greater flexibility, etc. We know lots of the physical reasons why we stretch. However, that is not the main goal of our the stretch in care.
In this level of care, we stretch a person’s spine and in turn their nervous system to allow them to have a more appropriate behvaiour through awareness of their emotions and range of emotions.
Emotions are experienced differently in our nervous system, depending on if the energy is more feminine or more masculine. This does not have to do with males or females. We all have both feminine and masculine energy within us. Depending on the situation, we can express our energy as more feminine or more masculine and have different results. Some people also have more of one energy type in their genetic make up than the other.
In individuals with more feminine energy, the stretch allows them to get ready to take action after feeling an emotion. Have you heard the expression, ‘it’s all talk’? Well, the purpose of an emotion is to get you to take an action. Anger is good, if it allows you to do something about it. But what do a lot of people do instead? They talk about it and then they release the energy before they take action on it. If you got angry and then stood up for yourself or for someone else, the energy of anger was for you to speak your voice. If you got angry and talked to your friend about how angry you were but nothing changed in your life, then there was a missed opportunity. Now, I’m not saying all actions are good, i.e. getting angry and then hitting someone, only that emotions allow you to take actions.
In individuals with more masculine energy, it allows them to increase the number of emotions they experience i.e. their range of emotions, in order to change their behaviour. If you only experienced 2 motions: good and bad, then everything that happened to you would cause the reaction of good or bad. What if we introduced, loved and sadness? Then you would be able to change your reaction/ behaviour based on which emotion you felt. If when it’s bad, wouldn’t it be good to know if it was bad vs sad? Yes, because it would lead to a different behaviour. Love, satisfied, fulfilled, those emotions would lead to better responses in your body and nervous system and in turn your life.
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We were all born with certain senses: smell, taste, touch, sight, hearing... that we develop through our years. When one sense is compromised, i.e. you lose the ability to hear, your other senses will become heightened and more aware. This is both to make up for the lost sense and also because you practice using the other senses more when you lose one of them.
Even if you temporarily lose part of your senses i.e. you are walking around in your dark house at night, you will notice that you hear noises better.
Why would we want to develop our senses further? The main reason for our senses is to keep us alive and to help us navigate the world. In the animal Kingdom, their senses are honed to help them find food, shelter, water, etc.
Here are some ways that you can practice developing your senses further without losing them.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic in Ottawa, Canada.