 Are you a person doing or a person being? “We stay busy so that the truth about our lives doesn’t catch up to us.” - Brene Brown When you have more time on your hands, you can observe more of who you are. With everyone being told to stay at home, you get a chance to see who you are without the distractions of the normal day to day life. Personally, I’ve noticed that I am always trying to find something to do. Running my own business, I can always find more work to do or more things to learn. When I’m not working on my business, I have the kids to distract me, along with household chores, etc. When I’m bored, I turn on the TV, listen to a podcast, or read. I try to fill my day with things to do. I have checklists for the day and I write so many things down that I can’t possibly do them all. Recently, I wondered why I do things all the time. I came to understand that I VALUE doing. Somewhere along the way in life, I have equated doing things with being valuable. I am of value to others if I do things and if I’m not doing something, I have lost “worth” in my eyes. Now that I know this belief is FALSE. I can practice being more. The irony is that worth and value come from being. Being a nice person, being grounded and connected, being with one’s self, being with spirit, being the person you were meant to be. I don’t simply want to be a human doing….. I want to be a human be-ing. Curious to see if Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic can help? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic? Click HERE.
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 This morning my son accidentally hurt me. He was walking backwards while I was lying on the floor playing with his sister. He didn’t see me and ended up stepping on my head. I exclaimed “Ouch!” and sat up to see if I was hurt. I then turned to my son and asked for an apology. Instead of hearing “Sorry Mama”, I heard ‘No!”. I proceeded to tell him that I was not mad at him, that he was not in trouble and he did accidentally step on someone and when we do that, we say sorry. He still refused. To me, it was a simple “sorry” and that was all. Instead, he cried and ran away and made things harder than they should’ve been. How many times have we made life more difficult than it should be? If a simple “I’m sorry” was all you had to say to make everything better, why do we choose instead to run away? Why is it so difficult for us to admit when we are wrong? It was also interesting to watch my reaction. My first instinct was to punish him in some way (turn off Paw Patrol) for not wanting to apologize. I learned that my reaction when my feelings are hurt is to punish and withdraw love. I observed my first reaction to hold back on love and I chose to react differently. He still needs to apologize or acknowledge that it is not ok to step on people’s head but he will not be getting any less hugs or less love from me as punishment. The lesson is to teach that there are actions and consequences to certain actions. This does not have to be taking away love which is one of the hardest things for a child. Interestingly, when I told my husband about the situation, my husband said...he’s just like you!....urgh, it appears that I have more work to do. How do you react when you are hurt? Where did this programming come from? Need some awareness? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.  Times are tough right now. We are experiencing something that we never have before and on a large scale. Whatever you are feeling, it is OK to feel the way that you feel. It is OK if you are having a tough day, week or month. Some people are at home trying to work, look after the children and homeschool them at the same time. You can’t expect to do all of these things. Even if you are able to (good for you), you are probably feeling pulled in many directions. It is OK to feel burnt out, overworked, stressed out or sad. Some people have lost their support network. Your family is not around to help. You can’t see your friends in person and some people are missing social interaction. Acknowledge what you were feeling and what you are missing. Others are missing freedom. Freedom to go outside without being scared. Freedom to see other people. Acknowledge how you are feeling. This is a time of fear and worry for a lot of people. Acknowledge what you feel and really feel the emotions that are coming up in your body. Know that this is all temporary and that the sun will come out again. If you would like to talk or are you having any trouble please contact my office. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.  I was on a virtual call with a patient and we were talking about the different acronyms for fear. We then realized that as we dissected out the various meanings of fear, we could put them in different stages according to the actions, beliefs, emotions and states of consciousness. Where do you fit in? 1. FEAR= Fear Everything And Run In this state, you may worry about many things and you are scared. You run away….from relationships, when things get uncomfortable, from finances, from your taxes, from your own power. Your nervous system is in a high state of alert and is ready to leave anything that you deem to possibly be dangerous or cause you harm, even if it’s only in your mind. 2. FEAR= False Evidence Appearing Real In this state, you start to question if there really is something to fear. Or perhaps you start to question your thinking to see if it was logical or if you were reacting with your emotions. A great question to ask yourself here is, “what else can this mean”? For example, a date cancels on you. Your mind goes to “he doesn’t like me, or I’m not lovable”. If you asked, what else could be going on here, you may find out that he’s not feeling well, his dog died, he got called into work, etc. 3. FEAR= Face Everything and Remain Here, you start to regain some more of your personal power. You take what comes at you and stay...even though you want to run away. You face the fear of public speaking. Your voice quivers, you think you might throw up, you wished that no one had showed up but you dig your heels in and stay. 4. FEAR= Face Everything and Rise In this state, there is an inner knowing that you can handle whatever comes your way. There is hardly any fear and what fear there is, you know the energy will be used to help you take the actions that you need to take. On the other side of the fear, you know that you will develop skills that will make you stronger. There is a purpose to what you are going through. You know that on the other side of the fear, is a gift. Be aware of where you are, acknowledge it and accept it. Interested in finding out more about FEAR? Read this article on how FEAR cuts off connection. Need some help? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic? Click HERE.  When a challenge arises in life, your best offence and defence is to be adaptable. The less tension you have in your body, the more flexible you are. With increased flexibility in your muscles, ligaments and tendons, the less prone you are to injury. Below is a blog from my friend and colleague Dr. Thorin Gault about adaptability. ADAPTABILITY is the ability to respond to changing conditions and circumstances. Great ADAPTABILITY allows us to actually grow and get better as a result of adversity. A lack of ADAPTABILITY means that when conditions change, we get hurt. CRISIS has an amazing ability to show us where we may possess a LACK of ADAPTABILITY. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their health are TERRIFIED right now (just spend a little time on social media) and are definitely suffering more than people who have that handled. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their finances are in TROUBLE and probably wish they had given themselves more options. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their mental health are in real danger right now and that danger will only increase the longer the lock down continues. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their relationships....well you can just IMAGINE. None of this is about blame - it is what it is and we all have our histories and circumstances. As always, there is a MASSIVE OPPORTUNITY in all of this. There is an OPPORTUNITY to take RESPONSE- ABILITY in how we move forward, both now and when the 'crisis' is over. Where in your life are you lacking the ability to ADAPT? Where in your life would MORE adaptability be a good thing? Once you have the answers to these questions, what can you do, starting today to start building ADAPTABILITY into those areas? How can you commit to becoming more ADAPTABLE once the dust settles on this madness? In your physical health, mental health, finances, relationships.....? ADAPTABILITY protects us. ADAPTABILITY is like an armour. ADAPTABILITY is what allows us to learn and get better. Perhaps the greatest gift the care that Neuro-Optimization delivers is ADAPTABILITY. As the health of the spine and nervous system (they are inseparable) increases, we become more adaptable humans. We are here for you and will do what we can (being adaptable) for everyone until we get back to life. There is SO MUCH to learn from all of this. Let's grow together. Need more adaptability? Give us a call 613-446-6060 or send us an e-mail: info@biohealottawa.com We are OPEN for virtual sessions. |
AuthorDr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic in Ottawa, Canada. 
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