Sometimes we aren’t aware of our patterns until someone points them out to us. One way for me to find out my patterns at home was to invite guests over to stay for a few days….
When we had guests over, I was able to observe how they functioned with their routines and contrast them with mine. None of our patterns were right or wrong, I only found the information useful to examine myself closer.
For example, my friends were nighthawks and tended to stay up late, whereas I am a morning person and am up with my kids at 5am. This means that my kids have early bedtimes, routines and meals times. This was in contrast to my friends who went to bed later and then woke up and got to their day later.
I discovered that I had many rules or patterns that were on automatic and some of them I wanted to change. For instance, when I am cooking, I go into automatic mode and just make our meal. When my guests wanted to make a meal for us, they included my toddler in the cooking. They gave him tasks like breaking apart the bok choy into pieces and washing vegetables and my son loved to do this. It opened up my eyes to get him even more involved in the kitchen with me.
I was able to observe patterns around the house and how I felt when pots and pans got misplaced, what we allowed our children to do, etc. I wasn’t even aware that I had so many rules.
Take a look at your home and see what rules you have. This is a good way to ask yourself why you are the way you are.
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Exciting news! We are starting a new support group for people affected by Lyme and chronic illness! Come join us for our first meeting on Monday, November 18 at 6:30pm. Our first guest speaker will be Dr. Marie Matheson who is a Lyme and Chronic Illness specialist. Please RSVP as seating is limited.
Lyme Disease and Chronic Illness - Invisible. Debilitating. Defeatable. YES!
Unfortunately due to the often invisible nature of many chronic illnesses and even more specifically with Lyme disease, it is common for others to not understand the debilitating and life-altering symptoms someone is experiencing and going through. Sometimes, people living with Lyme even encounter opposition, resistance and disbelief from others. Knowing that what you are experiencing is real, you are not alone, and that there are people who can offer caring support and options can bring much needed hope and motivation during the often challenging and bumpy road of healing from illness.
We understand this, and that is why we decided to set up a special kind of Lyme Support Group that’s inclusive of those suffering from chronic viral, bacterial, parasitic infections and mold illness too. It is intended to be a place where you can find others who are on a similar journey willing to openly discuss encouraging, constructive, practical, useful, beneficial, optimistic, cutting-edge and forward-looking options, suggestions, tools and resources.
If this sounds like something you would like to participate in, our first meeting is scheduled for Monday, Nov 18, 2019 at 6:30pm.
RSVP to firstname.lastname@example.org.
10 spaces are available. Priority will be given to patients of our office and their guests.
Is someone treating you in a way that you don’t like? Have you worked hard to change a behaviour about yourself only to have others still treat you like the person you were before?
How do you get someone to treat you differently? You need to teach them how to do it. This is because, we teach others how to treat us.
My baby girl is a perfect example. She has us well trained. We were very lucky that she took to nursing extremely well. However, when it was time for me to go back to work, she refused to drink from a bottle. We didn’t have a problem with bottling drinking from our first child, so this was new territory for us.
We tried everything we could think of. We used different bottles, different nipples types, different flows, changed the people that were feeding her, changed the places she was being fed but she still refused. Finally, we started feeding her with a spoon and although she wasn’t thrilled about it, she would at least drink enough milk to keep her full until I returned from work. She trained us how to feed her! Side note, she did finally figure out how to take a bottle after a couple months of trying.
So, if someone is consistently speaking to you in a certain tone or in a way that you don’t like....than
take a look at how they see you and how you taught them. Perhaps you let them get away with certain language the first time you met them and never told them that you didn’t like it. Maybe you let behaviours slide repeatedly so they know they could get away with more around you. Whatever the case, examine the role that you play to train others.
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Have you ever had the dream of wanting to be a rock star or wanting to be someone famous? While this is not a dream of mine, it was further cemented in an interaction with my son.
As soon as my son wakes up in the morning, the first thing I hear is the sounds of mama, mama, coming out of his room. He repeats his "song" over and over again until I arrive n his room. I love the sound of mama, however there are times where it can get tiring :)
There are times where I can’t go to the bathroom without seeing tiny fingers under the door asking for me or having little people barge into the bathroom. There have even been a couple times where I’ve had a little one on my lap while trying to go to the bathroom. It was one of those times where I had the thought that I don’t ever want to be a famous rock star.
How do famous people handle people following them everywhere? What if I had hundreds of thousands of people yelling Mama?
Nope. Not for me. Before you really want something in life, remember to make sure that it’s something you really want. Find out why you really want it.
Do you want to be married, have kids? Buy a new house or car? Go on vacation? Ask yourself why. is it because other people have these things and you want to be like everyone else? Are you unhappy and searching for happiness and you think having these things will get you there? Are you bored and just looking for a change?
Think about why you want what you want.
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Dr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic in Ottawa, Canada.