 The emotion of anger often gets a bad rap. When we are growing up, we are often told not to show your anger, or to control your anger or even to suck it up when we are angry. This is most often by well meaning parents, teachers and people we look up to. Instead of the negative side of anger or more so, the negative actions that stem from anger. Let’s look at anger and how it protects you. Anger is protective. It makes others not want to associate with you when you are angry. It keeps people away. This can be a good thing if you are in danger. You can shout and use your voice to save yourself. Anger gives you more energy. Ever notice how difficult it is to fall asleep when you are angry? The saying, don’t go to bed angry probably comes from the fact that you can’t actually get sleep when you are angry. Anger can give you power. If there’s an injustice that you want to stand up for, getting angry for the oppressed can help fuel you to take action to help make a change in some way. When you say "Enough of this!", your angry brings you power. When you use anger as a shield, it can ward people off. This is most likely needed at the time that you put up your shield. The challenge is, most people never examine themselves to see if the anger shield is still needed. Imagine having your anger shield up and keeping people away from you and at the same time, feeling alone and wanting to connect to others. Something that serves you well on one level of consciousness will not on another. Anger gets a bad rap and it doesn’t have to. At the same time, when you are done with your emotion of anger, make sure to examine if your shield is still needed. Need help to take down your anger shield? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.
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 What do you do when there’s not enough time in the day? You need to feed the kids, feed yourself, find time to exercise, work, do household chores, meditate, journal etc. etc. etc. The answer is NET time. NET is an acronym for no extra time. This is where you try to bundle some of the things that you are doing so that it doesn’t require extra time to do them. Here are some suggestions of some of the things you can bundle together:
What are some of your ways that you save time? Need some help? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.  Today I feel great but I didn’t yesterday. I wasn’t even aware that I didn’t feel great yesterday. It was only through contrast that I knew truly how lousy I had been feeling. It had been 2 months since I last saw my chiropractor. It had been my longest stretch that I had gone without seeing them. It started when I noticed over and over again that I had stiff neck, some pain and some sore muscles. Because we were locked down, I couldn’t go to my chiropractor as were are only supposed to see emergencies at that time and I was not in an emergency situation. I noticed that as soon as I got on the table, my body started to relax. When I finally received my first contact, I realize how truly unwell I had been feeling. I had stress from the lockdown, from being with my two young children all the time, from my practice having to stop, from my husband working at home, worrying about friends and family... everything that everyone else was dealing with but I didn’t know how much I had actually taken on. As a treatment continued, I started to notice my nervous system come back online. My muscles started to relax in my jaw and I started to stretch my body and I could breathe again. I could fully breathe again. After I got off the table, I exclaimed that I felt like myself again. When I went home, I knew that I could be a better mother to my children, partner to my husband and a better person for humanity. I am so grateful for the work that I’ve been entrusted to do. I am excited to see my patients again and for them to feel the same things that I felt. Sometimes breaks allow us to truly see how important some things are in our lives. Excited to get some Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic done? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.  Infertility is a difficult, multi-layered and multi-faceted subject. There’s so many emotions that go along with it. At first, people get excited at the prospect of being a parent. As the months turn into years, every time you get your period, you go down into a web of despair. The challenge isn’t with 1 single month of not being pregnant, it is with the months and months of disappointments that are piled up over time. Recently, I’ve worked with several women about their emotions associated with infertility. Most commonly, people are angry because they feel that their body has failed them in some way. I often hear, "my body was designed to do this and now it’s not. I am so angry with my body. Why doesn’t my body work properly?" Then, somewhere along the way, not working properly is equated with not being of value. Sometimes, I hear, "I'm not good enough because I am not a mother. " Others, play the “if only” game. If only we had tried sooner, if only I were younger, if only I ate better…. then I could get pregnant. Many feel the disappointment not just for themselves or their spouse but that of their parents and family as well. This can be an extra burden for them to carry. Not only do they feel they are letting themselves down, but others as well. When they hear that somebody is pregnant or see a pregnant person they wonder why can’t that be them. This can be really hard emotionally for somebody. Most often, people will react negatively towards learning that others are pregnant, leading to further isolation. It is not because they are not happy for the newly pregnant person but because they so badly want to be that person. The above are only some of what a person is dealing with in regards to infertility. If these emotions stay in the body and are not fully processed, it can lead to discomfort and dis-ease later on in life. The emotions of what you are feeling need to be felt. This is why I’ve also heard from several of my patients that they got pregnant after we worked to release their emotions and get rid of neuro abnormalities in their spine and nervous system. For those that did not get pregnant, they were able to let go of the emotional weight that they have been experiencing. Either way, patients learned to surrender to what is. This is extremely hard. When you have had a single focus for years, tried everything you can think of, surrender seems like giving up. When your mind is occupied with tracking cycles, fertility treatments, timing intimacy, eating a specific diet, it can be too much stress. Feel and experience your emotions, accept the present moment and surrender to what is. Need some help? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic Click HERE.  Are you a person doing or a person being? “We stay busy so that the truth about our lives doesn’t catch up to us.” - Brene Brown When you have more time on your hands, you can observe more of who you are. With everyone being told to stay at home, you get a chance to see who you are without the distractions of the normal day to day life. Personally, I’ve noticed that I am always trying to find something to do. Running my own business, I can always find more work to do or more things to learn. When I’m not working on my business, I have the kids to distract me, along with household chores, etc. When I’m bored, I turn on the TV, listen to a podcast, or read. I try to fill my day with things to do. I have checklists for the day and I write so many things down that I can’t possibly do them all. Recently, I wondered why I do things all the time. I came to understand that I VALUE doing. Somewhere along the way in life, I have equated doing things with being valuable. I am of value to others if I do things and if I’m not doing something, I have lost “worth” in my eyes. Now that I know this belief is FALSE. I can practice being more. The irony is that worth and value come from being. Being a nice person, being grounded and connected, being with one’s self, being with spirit, being the person you were meant to be. I don’t simply want to be a human doing….. I want to be a human be-ing. Curious to see if Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic can help? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic? Click HERE.  This morning my son accidentally hurt me. He was walking backwards while I was lying on the floor playing with his sister. He didn’t see me and ended up stepping on my head. I exclaimed “Ouch!” and sat up to see if I was hurt. I then turned to my son and asked for an apology. Instead of hearing “Sorry Mama”, I heard ‘No!”. I proceeded to tell him that I was not mad at him, that he was not in trouble and he did accidentally step on someone and when we do that, we say sorry. He still refused. To me, it was a simple “sorry” and that was all. Instead, he cried and ran away and made things harder than they should’ve been. How many times have we made life more difficult than it should be? If a simple “I’m sorry” was all you had to say to make everything better, why do we choose instead to run away? Why is it so difficult for us to admit when we are wrong? It was also interesting to watch my reaction. My first instinct was to punish him in some way (turn off Paw Patrol) for not wanting to apologize. I learned that my reaction when my feelings are hurt is to punish and withdraw love. I observed my first reaction to hold back on love and I chose to react differently. He still needs to apologize or acknowledge that it is not ok to step on people’s head but he will not be getting any less hugs or less love from me as punishment. The lesson is to teach that there are actions and consequences to certain actions. This does not have to be taking away love which is one of the hardest things for a child. Interestingly, when I told my husband about the situation, my husband said...he’s just like you!....urgh, it appears that I have more work to do. How do you react when you are hurt? Where did this programming come from? Need some awareness? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.  Times are tough right now. We are experiencing something that we never have before and on a large scale. Whatever you are feeling, it is OK to feel the way that you feel. It is OK if you are having a tough day, week or month. Some people are at home trying to work, look after the children and homeschool them at the same time. You can’t expect to do all of these things. Even if you are able to (good for you), you are probably feeling pulled in many directions. It is OK to feel burnt out, overworked, stressed out or sad. Some people have lost their support network. Your family is not around to help. You can’t see your friends in person and some people are missing social interaction. Acknowledge what you were feeling and what you are missing. Others are missing freedom. Freedom to go outside without being scared. Freedom to see other people. Acknowledge how you are feeling. This is a time of fear and worry for a lot of people. Acknowledge what you feel and really feel the emotions that are coming up in your body. Know that this is all temporary and that the sun will come out again. If you would like to talk or are you having any trouble please contact my office. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization? Click HERE.  I was on a virtual call with a patient and we were talking about the different acronyms for fear. We then realized that as we dissected out the various meanings of fear, we could put them in different stages according to the actions, beliefs, emotions and states of consciousness. Where do you fit in? 1. FEAR= Fear Everything And Run In this state, you may worry about many things and you are scared. You run away….from relationships, when things get uncomfortable, from finances, from your taxes, from your own power. Your nervous system is in a high state of alert and is ready to leave anything that you deem to possibly be dangerous or cause you harm, even if it’s only in your mind. 2. FEAR= False Evidence Appearing Real In this state, you start to question if there really is something to fear. Or perhaps you start to question your thinking to see if it was logical or if you were reacting with your emotions. A great question to ask yourself here is, “what else can this mean”? For example, a date cancels on you. Your mind goes to “he doesn’t like me, or I’m not lovable”. If you asked, what else could be going on here, you may find out that he’s not feeling well, his dog died, he got called into work, etc. 3. FEAR= Face Everything and Remain Here, you start to regain some more of your personal power. You take what comes at you and stay...even though you want to run away. You face the fear of public speaking. Your voice quivers, you think you might throw up, you wished that no one had showed up but you dig your heels in and stay. 4. FEAR= Face Everything and Rise In this state, there is an inner knowing that you can handle whatever comes your way. There is hardly any fear and what fear there is, you know the energy will be used to help you take the actions that you need to take. On the other side of the fear, you know that you will develop skills that will make you stronger. There is a purpose to what you are going through. You know that on the other side of the fear, is a gift. Be aware of where you are, acknowledge it and accept it. Interested in finding out more about FEAR? Read this article on how FEAR cuts off connection. Need some help? Give our office a call. I am available for virtual consults and in-office consults. 613-446-6060. For more information about virtual treatments, Click HERE. Looking for more information about Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic? Click HERE.  When a challenge arises in life, your best offence and defence is to be adaptable. The less tension you have in your body, the more flexible you are. With increased flexibility in your muscles, ligaments and tendons, the less prone you are to injury. Below is a blog from my friend and colleague Dr. Thorin Gault about adaptability. ADAPTABILITY is the ability to respond to changing conditions and circumstances. Great ADAPTABILITY allows us to actually grow and get better as a result of adversity. A lack of ADAPTABILITY means that when conditions change, we get hurt. CRISIS has an amazing ability to show us where we may possess a LACK of ADAPTABILITY. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their health are TERRIFIED right now (just spend a little time on social media) and are definitely suffering more than people who have that handled. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their finances are in TROUBLE and probably wish they had given themselves more options. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their mental health are in real danger right now and that danger will only increase the longer the lock down continues. People who lack ADAPTABILITY in their relationships....well you can just IMAGINE. None of this is about blame - it is what it is and we all have our histories and circumstances. As always, there is a MASSIVE OPPORTUNITY in all of this. There is an OPPORTUNITY to take RESPONSE- ABILITY in how we move forward, both now and when the 'crisis' is over. Where in your life are you lacking the ability to ADAPT? Where in your life would MORE adaptability be a good thing? Once you have the answers to these questions, what can you do, starting today to start building ADAPTABILITY into those areas? How can you commit to becoming more ADAPTABLE once the dust settles on this madness? In your physical health, mental health, finances, relationships.....? ADAPTABILITY protects us. ADAPTABILITY is like an armour. ADAPTABILITY is what allows us to learn and get better. Perhaps the greatest gift the care that Neuro-Optimization delivers is ADAPTABILITY. As the health of the spine and nervous system (they are inseparable) increases, we become more adaptable humans. We are here for you and will do what we can (being adaptable) for everyone until we get back to life. There is SO MUCH to learn from all of this. Let's grow together. Need more adaptability? Give us a call 613-446-6060 or send us an e-mail: info@biohealottawa.com We are OPEN for virtual sessions.  There are probably a lot of things that we are fearful of. One of my fears is snakes. I don’t even know why I’m afraid of them but I am. However, I don’t want my son to be. So, I need to be courageous for him so that he doesn’t grow up to be fearful of them.
One of the ways to turn your fear into courage is to do it for someone else. Have there been times where you have been fearful to speak up about something for yourself? Perhaps it was for a raise or to a bully. How about if you had to speak up to protect someone else? I’m sure you could find the courage to do that. If you can’t do it for you, find someone else that you can be courageous for. Your family, friends, animals who may not be able to speak for themselves. Another way to get through your fears is to break them down into smaller challenges. If your goal was to climb a high mountain then your task would seem daunting if you were at the bottom. If however, you just asked if you could take the next step or two, your challenge would then become easier. Over time, you will climb your mountain. One thing I like to do is to give myself challenges. For instance, if I wanted to try a new way of eating. I might commit to it for 30 days and give myself and 30 healthy eating challenge. 30 days is something that I can track and it’s a short enough time vs saying that I had to eat a certain way forever. If finances scare you, why not try a 30 day challenge where you track your spending. Commit to a 30 day challenge for something, and write below what you are going to do. Need some help? Give us a call 613-446-6060 |
AuthorDr. Amanda is a non-traditional chiropractor who focuses on Neuro-Optimization Chiropractic in Ottawa, Canada. 
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