How to Treat Others

When I was growing up, I was taught the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  In other words, treat others as you would like them to treat you.  I have since found this statement to be less accurate that originally taught.  

People don’t want you to treat them like you want to be treated, they want you to treat them how they want to be treated.  

Let’s say for example that I have an outgoing and loud personality.  If I were in a classroom setting, I may want to be called upon in class and to do speeches and participate.  Imagine if I treated everyone in class like that?  What would happen to the shy, introverted people?  They would be terrified and never come back to class.

Instead, treat others as they expect to be treated, to the best of your ability.  This holds true especially in the service industry.  When you go to a restaurant, you have certain expectations.  You expect to be seated, someone to bring you drinks, order and serve you.  If your expectations we not met, you would probably not return to the establishment.

What happens when you have certain expectations about your kids, spouse, friend etc and they are not met?  An upset will probably occur.

Some will say that you should not have any expectations.  The challenge is, we all do.  Until we have the chance to explore our limiting beliefs and change our expectations, remember to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and see how they might want to be treated.

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