Letting Go of Grudges

​Has there been someone who hurt you in the past and you are still holding on to that event?  Did it happen a long time ago and you still think about it?  How do we let go of hold grudges so we can move on.

Firstly, it takes a lot of energy to hold onto a grudge.  The longer you hold on to something, the more energy it ties up in your body.  Energy that is tied up, can’t be used for other things such as healing, digestion or exercise.  If you have years of stored grudges, it wouldn't take much to feel worn out, overwhelmed, get sick, etc.

Holding onto a grudge also has an affect on our self-esteem.  This is because we enslave ourselves to others.  For example, some people with whom we hold a grudge aren’t even aware that we are upset with them.  

Have you ever confronted your parents about an event that upset you in your childhood only to have them say they don’t remember that event?  For you, what occurred was etched into your nervous system and you remember the date, who was around, how it make you feel, etc and your parents, didn’t.  If someone isn’t aware that you are holding a grudge against them, they also can’t free you.  

Others, have even moved away, passed on or are not in your life anymore and you can’t get free even if you want to.

Instead of waiting for someone else to set you free, here is an exercise that you can try on your own.  

Imagine them in your mind and your last interaction.  Ask them, what they want to say to you and keep quiet.  Let them speak.  When they are finished, tell them what you would have wanted to tell them.  Tell them what you’ve been holding in all this time.  When you’re finished, set them free.

For a lot of people, they will feel lighter, calmer and it with a sense of weight being taken off, after this exercise.  Congrats!  You have set yourself free.  For others, the past event may be too etched into your nervous system and you may need additional help.  

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